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Do you have this constant yammering in your head telling you that you can’t do something, that you’re so dumb you’ll screw this up? Does this toxic inner voice tell you you’re just not smart enough? I’ve named this energy-draining voice girly thoughts. Yes, it’s a miserable name for a terrible feeling we have been …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Shocking? Yes. Toxic girly thoughts, those societally determined standards of right and wrong for women that have you trying to be the good girl in so many ways—including sexually—have had a powerful effect on you. When you consider this, you know you have been conditioned by the media and the greater society to feel comfortable …
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What Sexual Addiction is NOT

June 13th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (0 Comments)
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At the age of 19, Devin’s parents, when he was home on summer break from college, learned that he was looking at gay porn on his laptop, and that he had posted his profile on several gay hookup apps. As members of a conservative religion, they sought advice from their pastor, who told them that …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

The more you engage and connect, the more engagement and connections you will have. ―Loren Weisman   A common theme in psychotherapy sessions is connection. Women share that they want more connection, particularly with their intimate partners. But the way many women go about this is often self-defeating because they feel they need to fix some …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Saturday night, I literally fell asleep tweeting. I woke up after six hours and began tweeting again. This is not me. Why did this happen? I was pumped. I was tweeting about Josh Duggar and his sisters. I tweeted my outrage and my concern for the increasing number of sexual abuse survivors who are screaming …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

I met Roseanna recently when I gave a talk at a university. She remembered that I asked women to share their girly thoughts, an obnoxious term I coined to describe that toxic, inner self-talk that plagues and disempowers women.     Roseanna’s Contribution     Roseanna send me a poem she wrote about her sister, …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Sometimes we need a study to prove something we have known for a very long time—that we have been feeling bad about ourselves for as long as we can remember.     Read it and Weep   In an article originally published in Eating Disorders: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention and blogged about by …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

“This is who I am and look at me not being perfect! I’m proud of that.” —Kate Winslet         Girly thoughts are the way you internalize society’s messages about how you should look and should feel. They affect you on many levels, from the way you speak and write about yourself on …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

I’m returning to the scene of the crime (the city I grew up in), New York City, to speak to fellow psychologists, and I’m inviting you to join me! Why? Because as women we all have girly thoughts, and together we can learn to identify them as well as strategize ways to eliminate them. I …
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