It is common to hear addicts talk about themselves as if they were different than other people. They have often gone through so much and felt dehumanized so many times that seeing things work for other people is like watching a foreign film, they can’t understand the message and they don’t get the plot. In …
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It is common to hear addicts talk about themselves as if they were different than other people. They have often gone through so much and felt dehumanized so many times that seeing things work for other people is like watching a foreign film, they can’t understand the message and they don’t get the plot. In …
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All holidays are stressful. It’s either the good stress of trying to do all you have planned for those you love or the dread you feel about again being in certain family situations that you felt you “escaped” as an adult. Or maybe it’s a combination of the two. As complicated as family gatherings are, …
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Relationship Red Flags

May 10th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Whenever we get into a new romantic relationship, it’s natural for us to be infatuated and want to spend a lot of time with them. For those of us that are codependents or love addicts, we can become dangerously obsessed. The problem is that we don’t have anything to compare ourselves to, so we can’t …
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Signs of Love Addiction

May 1st, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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Love addiction can mean so many different things to people. There is no set diagnosis for it, and no list of things you *must* have or do to have it.  For those of us that know we are love addicts, think back to how hard it was to find out, and then come to terms …
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LOOKING FOR LAUGHTER, JOY AND BEAUTY

April 10th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Most people are aware of what is known as the placebo effect. This is a phenomenon that occurs when someone is told that a pill or a medication they are taking is a cure for a health condition even though it is just a simple sugar pill with no medicinal qualities. People that believe they …
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Addiction, Isolation, And The Law Of Attraction

April 5th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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One of the most common issues that I found when completing research for “The Law of Sobriety” is how addiction and isolation go hand in hand. For most people it is the isolation that triggers the addiction and then the addiction that drives the isolation. Let me explain what I mean. A person, it could …
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Are you making BIG plans for St. Patrick’s Day? Consider making this St. Patrick’s Day a sober one—for your sake.   Pub Crawl, Anyone?   St. Patrick’s Day used to be a day for families to celebrate the best in Irish culture. This included everything from proudly marching in a local parade to the “wearing …
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A Valentine’s Day Detox

February 25th, 2017 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off)
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He loves me, he loves me not? The bigger question is: Why do I care so much?     Well, the BIG Day—Valentine’s Day—has come and gone. This day of tension, caused by the painful and anxious feelings  produced by your girly thoughts telling you that your lovability is demonstrated by what your partner does or …
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