Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

If you don’t know yet, Monica Lewinsky has gone public with a Ted Talk. It is well worth seeing because she does what I’ve been inviting you to do:   Stop listening to your girly thoughts; that toxic inner dialogue that blames you for anything that goes wrong in your life.     Monica’s Courage   …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

“Lent comes providentially to reawaken us, to shake us from our lethargy.” —Pope Francis     Whether you are Christian or not, or devout or not, you are probably aware that we have entered Lent, a season of spiritual growth and self-examination, which often includes fasting and a tradition of giving something up (even though …
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Rob Weiss Sex Addiction Expert

I don’t often utilize this space for book reviews. In fact, I don’t often write book reviews. But after I heard trans man (female to male transsexual) Ryan Sallans speak about his life and what it means to be transgender at the 2015 annual symposium of the International Institute of Trauma & Addiction Professionals, I …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

So often we feel it is not good to be angry—particularly at work, where we’ll be seen and judged. We fear our anger is unbecoming, and that if we let ourselves get angry, we won’t be liked or that we’ll be labeled the dreaded “B-word.” Instead, we tell ourselves we should be pleasing, approachable, not …
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Rob Weiss Sex Addiction Expert

In my previous posting to this site I discussed the ways in which men who engage in sexual infidelity justify their behavior. Essentially, they tell themselves that what they are doing does not qualify as cheating because they’re only hooking up online, or they’re only having oral sex, or whatever. They seem to think that …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

He loves me, he loves me not? The bigger question is: Why do I care so much?   Well the BIG Day—Valentine’s Day—has come and gone. This day of tension, caused by the painful and anxious feelings produced by your girly thoughts telling you that your lovability is going to be demonstrated by what your …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

There is a crack in everything . . . that’s how the light gets in. —Leonard Cohen   There is something about a holiday—and Valentine’s Day in particular—that makes us focus even more than usual on what we see as our faults. It must be the connection between our powerful, emotional needs for love and the …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

 “How do you spell ‘love’?” – Piglet “You don’t spell it . . . you feel it.” – Pooh —A.A. Milne, Winnie The Pooh   Perhaps no other holiday creates as much tension as Valentine’s Day. This is the day of love, of being loved, and of receiving gifts; all of which say that all …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

When you hold yourself back, when you don’t assert the power of your position, share your information, offer your opinion, there is a price to be paid—and it is either paid in real time with negative consequences or paid down the line in a failure to really succeed.       Are You Holding Yourself …
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