In today’s world you’d be hard-pressed to find a sex addict whose compulsive behaviors are not facilitated by digital devices—computers, laptops, pads, tablets, smartphones, etc. Fifteen years ago, it was reasonable to suggest that sex addicts who were acting out via technology should stay away from computers and the Internet altogether, or, if they absolutely …
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Sometimes it is difficult to see what is before your eyes. You may not notice what is obvious: Both you and your mother have many strengths. You may be too conditioned by your girly thoughts to appreciate your mom’s resilience, her ability to bounce back from adversity. But who was your first influence in developing …
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  New data documents that the suicide rate in the United States has surged to the highest level in nearly thirty years, with increases in every age group except older adults, and “the rise was particularly steep for women.”     Why Are Women’s Suicide Rates Up?     Here are the more obvious answers …
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Ever want to soar above your troubles, be more in the moment instead of all in your head? The answer: Look up, then look in . . . Yesterday I happened across a video of what an eagle needs to do to thrive. I invite you to watch it to see what it takes to …
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Women in sports take a great deal of abuse, and most of it is off the field. Professional women athletes are criticized in both public and social media for being competent, for being aggressive, and for winning. Consider the sexist remarks made before the women’s final of the BNP Paribas Open. Indian Wells CEO Raymond …
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Sex Addiction Is NOT FUN

April 22nd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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Jeremy is a 39-year-old electrician and a married father of three. From a distance, his life looks OK. He’s got a steady job, a nice house, and a family. Yet he’s entered therapy (without telling his wife) for what feels to him like depression and debilitating anxiety. And this is not his first secretive trip …
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Complex Early-Life Trauma, Sexual Abuse, and Addiction

April 1st, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Trauma - (Comments Off)
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Josh grew up in a highly dysfunctional home. His father drank and raged (mostly at his mother, but also at him and his older brother). His mother enabled the drinking and tolerated the verbal and physical abuse mostly without complaint, seemingly blaming herself for her husband’s alcoholism and temper. When things got really bad, Josh …
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There is nothing like getting an award to make you pay attention to the group that is giving it. This was my experience when I was told I was receiving the Emerald Spirits Award from Sober St. Patrick’s Day. Sober St Patrick’s Day? I had vaguely heard of the group, but now I needed to learn …
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In my two previous postings to this site, I have addressed single recovering sex addicts’ readiness for dating and the formulation of a plan for healthy dating. I have not, however, addressed the fact that meeting and dating in the 21st century is more often than not facilitated by digital devices. In fact, in today’s …
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