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A few weeks ago, a writer for Glamour.com contacted me about an article she was working on—on sober dating. I was excited, but not surprised that sobriety is being discovered by women’s media. It was a fun project that produced a terrific article, which I encourage you to read: Eight Amazing Thing You Learn from …
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In a previous posting to this site I wrote about the basic ways in which addiction treatment specialists and other therapists can fold 12 step principals and themes into therapy. In that article I discussed the belief that clinicians treating addicts should generally steer their clients toward the external social support and guidance offered by …
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Facing the Discomfort of Confrontation

January 19th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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When I started my recovery, my life was full of tons of failed relationships. Time after time, an issue would arise, and the friendship would be over.  When an issue arose, I would either run for the hills, or suffer in silence and pretend there was not a problem.  Usually it was a combination of …
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Back in the 1990s, the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) published a monograph intended for use by therapists dealing with alcohol dependent individuals. Essentially, the NIAAA recommended that clinicians steer their alcoholic clients into Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) while simultaneously incorporating the principles of AA’s twelve steps into therapy sessions. The NIAAA’s monograph …
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Detaching With Love

January 2nd, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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We all have people we are attached to.  Some attachments are different than others – for instance, the attachment to our parents will be different than the attachment to our friends or partners.  As love addicts and codependents, however, we often find ourselves too attached to someone.  We can’t get over our last relationship, and …
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Creating Boundaries

December 21st, 2016 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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Many of us have heard of boundaries, but have no idea what they are, or we don’t put them to use.  Think about what a boundary is to you. For me, I think of a fence along a property line.  Setting boundaries for ourselves is the same idea. We create a road block that we …
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The holiday season is supposed to be overflowing with joy. Most people, however, find themselves dealing with stress and anxiety more than any of the happier emotions. For recovering addicts in particular, the holidays can be a difficult time of year, as all of the extra emotional discomfort can and often does trigger a desire …
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Which Client is Sexually Addicted?

December 6th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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In today’s world, all sorts of people are misdiagnosed, by self or others, as sexually addicted. This occurs for any number of reasons. Recognizing this, it is imperative that addiction therapists and other clinicians learn to differentiate between those who are and those who are not sexually addicted. Otherwise, we risk over-treating and/or mistreating clients—either …
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Acting Instead of Reacting

December 1st, 2016 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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As codependents, many of us grew up in households that were dysfunctional and traumatic. In order to cope, we developed survival skills that would carry us into adulthood. We continued to use those survival skills, even when it was plain for anyone to see they weren’t working. It’s not just something we can stop doing …
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