Author Archives: Rob Weiss

About Rob Weiss

Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S is a digital-age intimacy and relationships expert specializing in infidelity and addictions—most notably sex, porn, and love addiction. An internationally acknowledged clinician, he frequently serves as a subject expert on human sexuality for multiple media outlets including CNN, HLN, MSNBC, The Oprah Winfrey Network, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, and NPR, among others. He is the author of several highly regarded books, including “Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,” “Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction,” “Sex Addiction 101: The Workbook,” and “Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men.” He blogs regularly for Psychology Today, Huffington Post, and Psych Central. A skilled clinical educator, he routinely provides training to therapists, the US military, hospitals, and psychiatric centers in the US and abroad. Over the years, he has created and overseen more than a dozen high-end addiction and mental health treatment facilities. Currently, he is CEO of Seeking Integrity, LLC, being developed as an online resource for recovery from infidelity and sexual addiction. For more information or to reach Mr. Weiss, please visit his website,, or follow him on Twitter, @RobWeissMSW.

In a previous posting to this site I wrote about the basic ways in which addiction treatment specialists and other therapists can fold 12 step principals and themes into therapy. In that article I discussed the belief that clinicians treating addicts should generally steer their clients toward the external social support and guidance offered by …
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Preventing Relapse: Best Practices in Addiction Treatment

January 8th, 2017 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Addiction & Recovery - (Comments Off)

Back in the 1990s, the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) published a monograph intended for use by therapists dealing with alcohol dependent individuals. Essentially, the NIAAA recommended that clinicians steer their alcoholic clients into Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) while simultaneously incorporating the principles of AA’s twelve steps into therapy sessions. The NIAAA’s monograph …
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Holiday Sanity and Sobriety: Tips for Recovering Addicts

December 13th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction & Recovery | Alcohol Addiction - (Comments Off)

The holiday season is supposed to be overflowing with joy. Most people, however, find themselves dealing with stress and anxiety more than any of the happier emotions. For recovering addicts in particular, the holidays can be a difficult time of year, as all of the extra emotional discomfort can and often does trigger a desire …
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Which Client is Sexually Addicted?

December 6th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)

In today’s world, all sorts of people are misdiagnosed, by self or others, as sexually addicted. This occurs for any number of reasons. Recognizing this, it is imperative that addiction therapists and other clinicians learn to differentiate between those who are and those who are not sexually addicted. Otherwise, we risk over-treating and/or mistreating clients—either …
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Identifying Common Behavioral Addictions

November 16th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Love Addiction | Sex Addiction | Shopping Addiction - (Comments Off)

I spend a lot of time and effort in this space describing sexual addiction—what it is, how it can be identified, and how it can best be treated. However, sex is not the only behavioral addiction. In fact, just as it is with pleasure-inducing substances, almost any pleasure-inducing behavior can be used in an addictive …
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Research Links Heavy Porn Use and Erectile Dysfunction

October 31st, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)

Psychotherapists dealing with sexual issues, in particular sex and porn addiction, have stated for several years that one of the consequences porn abusing male clients are commonly reporting is sexual dysfunction—most often erectile dysfunction (ED) but also delayed ejaculation (DE) and sometimes even a complete inability to reach orgasm (anorgasmia). Interestingly, many such clients say …
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Can You Really Be Single, Sexless, and Happy?

October 13th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Relationships | Sexuality - (Comments Off)

Not long ago, in response to a cultural shift I’ve observed in recent years, I coined the term “sologamy,” defining it as the state of being single and not wanting a romantic or sexual relationship. Once upon a time, of course, sologamy was almost unthinkable. Living solo was looked upon as highly undesirable and something …
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Technology and Sexual Addiction

September 27th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)

In today’s world, pretty much everyone has a laptop, tablet, and/or smartphone. As such, pretty much everyone has 24/7 access to everything the internet and smartphone apps have to offer—including sex and romance. And because of this, sexual addiction is very much on the rise. For most people, of course, digital sexnology is not an …
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Sex Addicts and Their Underlying Issues

August 23rd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)

In today’s world, almost every psychotherapeutic clinician encounters at least a few clients who are behaving in sexually compulsive ways. The first step in treating these clients, the same as with any disorder, involves proper assessment. Unfortunately, very few biopsychosocial instruments cover sexual issues in any sort of meaningful way. Thus, I suggest that clinicians …
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