Author Archives: Rob Weiss

About Rob Weiss

Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S is a digital-age intimacy and relationships expert specializing in infidelity and addictions—in particular sex, porn, and love addiction. He is the author of several highly regarded books, including “Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,” “Sex Addiction 101,” and “Sex Addiction 101: The Workbook.” Currently, he is Senior Vice President of National Clinical Development for Elements Behavioral Health, creating and overseeing addiction and mental health treatment programs for more than a dozen high-end treatment facilities. For more information please visit his website, robertweissmsw.com, or follow him on Twitter, @RobWeissMSW.

Pokémon Go: Harmless Entertainment or Addiction?

August 2nd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction - (Comments Off)

I live in Santa Monica, an overgrown beach town partially subsumed by the urban sprawl of Los Angeles. Near my house there are some really great walkways, both on the bluff overlooking the beach and lower down, adjacent to the beach itself. It’s a great place to get some exercise while enjoying the sunshine. Lately, …
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Dealing with Potentially Violent Clients

July 25th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Abuse | Counselor Education | Policy | Therapy | Workplace Issues - (Comments Off)

Identifiable Risk Factors After multiple instances of mass violence in the past year (Dallas, Orlando, San Bernardino, Colorado Springs, and Charleston, to name but a few), the ability to identify and treat individuals who are predisposed to violent behaviors is more vital than ever. Unfortunately, even mental health professionals are not very good at predicting …
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Silently Abused: Understanding Covert Incest

July 11th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Abuse | Addiction | Family Issues | Parenting | Relationships | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)

“Covert incest occurs when a child becomes the object of a parent’s affection, love, passion, and preoccupation. … The boundary between caring love and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child. … The child feels used and trapped; …
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Protective Software Products for Recovering Sex Addicts

June 15th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

In today’s world you’d be hard-pressed to find a sex addict whose compulsive behaviors are not facilitated by digital devices—computers, laptops, pads, tablets, smartphones, etc. Fifteen years ago, it was reasonable to suggest that sex addicts who were acting out via technology should stay away from computers and the Internet altogether, or, if they absolutely …
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Sex Addiction Is NOT FUN

April 22nd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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Jeremy is a 39-year-old electrician and a married father of three. From a distance, his life looks OK. He’s got a steady job, a nice house, and a family. Yet he’s entered therapy (without telling his wife) for what feels to him like depression and debilitating anxiety. And this is not his first secretive trip …
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Complex Early-Life Trauma, Sexual Abuse, and Addiction

April 1st, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Trauma - (Comments Off)
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Josh grew up in a highly dysfunctional home. His father drank and raged (mostly at his mother, but also at him and his older brother). His mother enabled the drinking and tolerated the verbal and physical abuse mostly without complaint, seemingly blaming herself for her husband’s alcoholism and temper. When things got really bad, Josh …
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Sex and the Single Sex Addict (Part Three): Can I Date Online?

March 7th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
Rob Weiss Sex Addiction Expert

In my two previous postings to this site, I have addressed single recovering sex addicts’ readiness for dating and the formulation of a plan for healthy dating. I have not, however, addressed the fact that meeting and dating in the 21st century is more often than not facilitated by digital devices. In fact, in today’s …
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Sex and the Single Sex Addict (Part Two): Healthy Dating

February 26th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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Celia, a 32-year-old businesswoman, 11 months sober from sex and love addiction, has decided that she is ready to start dating again. However, she is worried about relapsing, especially because she has tried to establish lasting sex and relationship sobriety several times in the past without much luck. This time, however, she plans to do …
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Sex and the Single Sex Addict (Part One): “Can I Date Without Relapsing?”

February 10th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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After more than a decade of active drug addiction paired with compulsive sexual activity, Marcus, a single 31-year-old delivery driver, entered treatment for both disorders. Initially, he was highly motivated and happy to be sober. Then, after about a year of almost total focus on his recovery, he started to wonder if he would ever …
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