Author Archives: Rob Weiss

About Rob Weiss

Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S is a digital-age intimacy and relationships expert specializing in infidelity and addictions—in particular sex, porn, and love addiction. He is the author of several highly regarded books, including “Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,” “Sex Addiction 101,” and “Sex Addiction 101: The Workbook.” Currently, he is Senior Vice President of National Clinical Development for Elements Behavioral Health, creating and overseeing addiction and mental health treatment programs for more than a dozen high-end treatment facilities. For more information please visit his website, robertweissmsw.com, or follow him on Twitter, @RobWeissMSW.

Do Sex Addicts Experience Withdrawal?

August 10th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
Rob Weiss Sex Addiction Expert

The three primary elements for a diagnosis of sexual addiction are as follows: Preoccupation to the point of obsession with sexual fantasies and behaviors Loss of control over sexual fantasies and behaviors, typically evidenced by multiple failed attempts to either quit, alter, or curtail these activities Negative life consequences directly related to out-of-control sexual fantasies …
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The Neurobiology of (Sexual) Addiction

July 8th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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Addiction and the Brain Addiction is sometimes referred to as a “brain disease,” primarily because it is the brain’s neurochemical pleasure response that drives it. Put simply, addictive substances and behaviors trigger the release of various pleasure-inducing neurotransmitters – primarily dopamine but also adrenaline, oxytocin, serotonin, and a variety of endorphins – into the nucleus …
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What Sexual Addiction is NOT

June 13th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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At the age of 19, Devin’s parents, when he was home on summer break from college, learned that he was looking at gay porn on his laptop, and that he had posted his profile on several gay hookup apps. As members of a conservative religion, they sought advice from their pastor, who told them that …
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Diagnosing Sexual Addiction, Part Two: Questions to Pose

May 7th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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As mentioned in part one of this blog, sexual addiction can be difficult to identify. Because of its highly secretive nature (the addict’s denial/unwillingness to disclose), even therapists sometimes struggle to uncover and diagnose active sexual addiction. The good news here is that there are some basic tools that can be used to identify (or …
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Diagnosing Sexual Addiction, Part One: Casual vs. At-Risk vs. Addicted

April 26th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
Rob Weiss Sex Addiction Expert

There are three main criteria for the diagnosis of sexual addiction: Preoccupation to the point of obsession with sexual fantasies and behaviors – online and off, with self and/or others Loss of control over sexual fantasies and behaviors, typically evidenced by multiple failed attempts to either quit or curtail these activities Negative life consequences directly …
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The Role of Gaslighting in Infidelity and Sexual Addiction

March 30th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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Cindy and Tim When Cindy met Tim, she fell for him almost immediately. “He just came in and swept me off my feet,” she says. “He was so confident, handsome and successful that I couldn’t resist.” Within a year, they were married and living in an upscale condo situated in the heart of their city’s …
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I don’t often utilize this space for book reviews. In fact, I don’t often write book reviews. But after I heard trans man (female to male transsexual) Ryan Sallans speak about his life and what it means to be transgender at the 2015 annual symposium of the International Institute of Trauma & Addiction Professionals, I …
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Men and Sexual Infidelity: Part Two, Looking Beneath the Behavior

February 25th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Men's Issues | Relationships | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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In my previous posting to this site I discussed the ways in which men who engage in sexual infidelity justify their behavior. Essentially, they tell themselves that what they are doing does not qualify as cheating because they’re only hooking up online, or they’re only having oral sex, or whatever. They seem to think that …
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Understanding Men Who Cheat, Part One (Justification and Denial)

January 28th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Relationships | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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In my previous posting to this site, I wrote about the reasons that women sometimes engage in sexual infidelity, promising that I’d take a look at men in this week’s blog. So, as promised, here is part one of my take on male cheaters…