Expectations: we all have them. Maybe we wake up and think it will be a good day. You were on time all morning, and just about to get to work when an obstacle arises, causing you to be late, thus ruining your momentum, perhaps even your day. We have all heard the sayings, “expect the …
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Hi everyone!  Today i want to cover the topic of intimacy, something vital to each of our lives, and a topic that is a big part of love addiction and codependency. A lot of us have found that in relationships, we have lost ourselves, and a big struggle is trying to rebuild our behavior patterns …
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Sex Addicts and Their Underlying Issues

August 23rd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)

In today’s world, almost every psychotherapeutic clinician encounters at least a few clients who are behaving in sexually compulsive ways. The first step in treating these clients, the same as with any disorder, involves proper assessment. Unfortunately, very few biopsychosocial instruments cover sexual issues in any sort of meaningful way. Thus, I suggest that clinicians …
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Hi guys.  Today I want to talk a little bit about the topic of letting go of our fears of abandonment.  I think it’s a really important subject when delving into love addiction and co-dependency, and fear of abandonment is one of the main things that prevents people from getting out of unhealthy relationships. The …
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Pokémon Go: Harmless Entertainment or Addiction?

August 2nd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction - (Comments Off)

I live in Santa Monica, an overgrown beach town partially subsumed by the urban sprawl of Los Angeles. Near my house there are some really great walkways, both on the bluff overlooking the beach and lower down, adjacent to the beach itself. It’s a great place to get some exercise while enjoying the sunshine. Lately, …
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“Covert incest occurs when a child becomes the object of a parent’s affection, love, passion, and preoccupation. … The boundary between caring love and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child. … The child feels used and trapped; …
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Sex Addiction Is NOT FUN

April 22nd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)
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Jeremy is a 39-year-old electrician and a married father of three. From a distance, his life looks OK. He’s got a steady job, a nice house, and a family. Yet he’s entered therapy (without telling his wife) for what feels to him like depression and debilitating anxiety. And this is not his first secretive trip …
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Complex Early-Life Trauma, Sexual Abuse, and Addiction

April 1st, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Trauma - (Comments Off)
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Josh grew up in a highly dysfunctional home. His father drank and raged (mostly at his mother, but also at him and his older brother). His mother enabled the drinking and tolerated the verbal and physical abuse mostly without complaint, seemingly blaming herself for her husband’s alcoholism and temper. When things got really bad, Josh …
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There is nothing like getting an award to make you pay attention to the group that is giving it. This was my experience when I was told I was receiving the Emerald Spirits Award from Sober St. Patrick’s Day. Sober St Patrick’s Day? I had vaguely heard of the group, but now I needed to learn …
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