“Covert incest occurs when a child becomes the object of a parent’s affection, love, passion, and preoccupation. … The boundary between caring love and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child. … The child feels used and trapped; …
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It’s the happy holiday season, and you’re already feeling the pressure. If you’re like most of us, you’re already hearing that inner voice that pushes you to do more, reminding you that it is up to you to make this a holiday season to remember while telling you that no matter what you’re doing, it …
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Good Housekeeping just posted a terrific piece giving advice to mothers, titled, “5 Ways to Encourage Confidence in Your Daughter” An important part of the message is that for women to consciously build confidence in their daughters, they also have to undo the messages they have bought into—self-defeating beliefs and behaviors I call toxic girly …
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Bristol Palin is in the news again for being pregnant and unmarried. But the real question is: why is this news? Was this an immaculate conception? If not, then we need to ask why this is concerned newsworthy . . .  unless there is an underlying bias.   Why Isn’t the Father in the News? …
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I met Roseanna recently when I gave a talk at a university. She remembered that I asked women to share their girly thoughts, an obnoxious term I coined to describe that toxic, inner self-talk that plagues and disempowers women.     Roseanna’s Contribution     Roseanna send me a poem she wrote about her sister, …
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By Patricia O’Gorman, PhD Author of The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power  (published on 10.28.14) — a fun book about a serious topic     The Resilient Woman: Mastering the 7 Steps to Personal Power (2013)       Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting—The Codependency Connection (2012)   …
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Sherry Gaba

Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Certified Transformational and Recovery Coach.  She is the author of “The Law of the Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery” and the creator of Wake Up Recovery.  She is the go to expert on VH1’s Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew Pinsky and media expert on …
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Counselor, along with HCI Books  is pleased to welcome Joan E. Childs, LCSW, as our newest contributing blogger! Joan E. Childs has been a licensed clinical social worker since 1978 specializing in change work for human potentiality, personal growth and self actualization. She was chosen to be the first affiliate of the John Bradshaw Center in the United States …
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Girly Thoughts Detox

By Patricia O’Gorman, PhD Author of The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power (publication date 10.28.14)       The Resilient Woman: Mastering the 7 Steps to Personal Power (2013)     Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting—The Codependency Connection          (2012)   …
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