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He loves me, he loves me not? The bigger question is: Why do I care so much?     Well, the BIG Day—Valentine’s Day—has come and gone. This day of tension, caused by the painful and anxious feelings  produced by your girly thoughts telling you that your lovability is demonstrated by what your partner does or …
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A few weeks ago, a writer for Glamour.com contacted me about an article she was working on—on sober dating. I was excited, but not surprised that sobriety is being discovered by women’s media. It was a fun project that produced a terrific article, which I encourage you to read: Eight Amazing Thing You Learn from …
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Can You Really Be Single, Sexless, and Happy?

October 13th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Relationships | Sexuality - (Comments Off)
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Not long ago, in response to a cultural shift I’ve observed in recent years, I coined the term “sologamy,” defining it as the state of being single and not wanting a romantic or sexual relationship. Once upon a time, of course, sologamy was almost unthinkable. Living solo was looked upon as highly undesirable and something …
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“She couldn’t satisfy her husband.” —Donald Trump speaking about Hillary Clinton     Donald Trump has spewed plenty of cringe-worthy, even disgusting, statements thus far in his presidential campaign, but one of the most bizarre was when he challenged his rival about her sexual desirability and blamed her for her husband’s affairs. Since the time I …
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Expectations: we all have them. Maybe we wake up and think it will be a good day. You were on time all morning, and just about to get to work when an obstacle arises, causing you to be late, thus ruining your momentum, perhaps even your day. We have all heard the sayings, “expect the …
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Hi guys.  Today I want to talk a little bit about the topic of letting go of our fears of abandonment.  I think it’s a really important subject when delving into love addiction and co-dependency, and fear of abandonment is one of the main things that prevents people from getting out of unhealthy relationships. The …
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“Covert incest occurs when a child becomes the object of a parent’s affection, love, passion, and preoccupation. … The boundary between caring love and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child. … The child feels used and trapped; …
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His Affair—Your Fault?

February 19th, 2016 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off)
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“She couldn’t satisfy her husband.” —Donald Trump speaking about Hillary Clinton     A presidential hopeful challenges his possible rival about her sexual desirability and blames her for her husband’s affairs. Is this message of a woman’s responsibility for something familiar to you? Do you stifle your infuriation because this sounds right? Where’s your outrage?   …
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 Wanting to be liked is important to all of us, and yes, we’re feeling the pressure on Valentine’s Day. But for you, and for many other women, this desire can move from wanting to be liked to desperately needing to be liked once a man enters the picture. For this, you pay a huge price—you …
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