Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

 Wanting to be liked is important to all of us, and yes, we’re feeling the pressure on Valentine’s Day. But for you, and for many other women, this desire can move from wanting to be liked to desperately needing to be liked once a man enters the picture. For this, you pay a huge price—you …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

It’s the happy holiday season, and you’re already feeling the pressure. If you’re like most of us, you’re already hearing that inner voice that pushes you to do more, reminding you that it is up to you to make this a holiday season to remember while telling you that no matter what you’re doing, it …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. —Gloria Steinman                   Are you aware that most drug studies are conducted on men? This has been true for testing even “routine” medications that are taken by both women and men. The reason always given …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Have you ever read anything on Facebook that caused you to tear up? Yesterday I had that experience when reading “Husband’s Heartwarming Response to Retouched Boudoir Photos of His Wife.” In her article, Barbara Diamond perfectly captures how our toxic girly thoughts have us doing to ourselves what society does to us:   focusing on …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

To be a woman who loves hip hop at times is to be in love with your abuser. —Ava DuVernay     I’m a woman who loves hip hop. I’m pulled in by the energy, the irreverence of some of the lyrics, the sense of being so alive in its beat. And yet, as a woman, …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Bristol Palin is in the news again for being pregnant and unmarried. But the real question is: why is this news? Was this an immaculate conception? If not, then we need to ask why this is concerned newsworthy . . .  unless there is an underlying bias.   Why Isn’t the Father in the News? …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Shocking? Yes. Toxic girly thoughts, those societally determined standards of right and wrong for women that have you trying to be the good girl in so many ways—including sexually—have had a powerful effect on you. When you consider this, you know you have been conditioned by the media and the greater society to feel comfortable …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Sexual politics run deep in our responses, even in casual meetings. We act like “dutiful little girls” in our responses, and in an almost instinctive reaction, we do to ourselves what society has taught us to do. This reaction, which I’ve named girly thoughts, is one I fight against, and I’ve coined the term and …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

I’m so excited . . . I’ve been invited to speak at the State University of New York (SUNY) at Potsdam on April 16.   I’ll be addressing a group of students from 7:00 to 8:30 pm in the Fireside Lounge of the Barrington Student Union about hitting gender issues head on. I was invited …
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