A Brief Encounter with Sexual Politics . . . No Girly Thoughts Allowed

April 24th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Women's Issues | Workplace Issues - (Comments Off on A Brief Encounter with Sexual Politics . . . No Girly Thoughts Allowed)

Sexual politics run deep in our responses, even in casual meetings. We act like “dutiful little girls” in our responses, and in an almost instinctive reaction, we do to ourselves what society has taught us to do. This reaction, which I’ve named girly thoughts, is one I fight against, and I’ve coined the term and …
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Students in Potsdam Are Learning About Girly Thoughts, Why Not You?

April 13th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Students in Potsdam Are Learning About Girly Thoughts, Why Not You?)

I’m so excited . . . I’ve been invited to speak at the State University of New York (SUNY) at Potsdam on April 16.   I’ll be addressing a group of students from 7:00 to 8:30 pm in the Fireside Lounge of the Barrington Student Union about hitting gender issues head on. I was invited …
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You, Me, & Monica Lewinsky: Four Ways You Can Correct Your Story

March 27th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Therapy | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on You, Me, & Monica Lewinsky: Four Ways You Can Correct Your Story)

If you don’t know yet, Monica Lewinsky has gone public with a Ted Talk. It is well worth seeing because she does what I’ve been inviting you to do:   Stop listening to your girly thoughts; that toxic inner dialogue that blames you for anything that goes wrong in your life.     Monica’s Courage   …
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Men and Sexual Infidelity: Part Two, Looking Beneath the Behavior

February 25th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Men's Issues | Relationships | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Men and Sexual Infidelity: Part Two, Looking Beneath the Behavior)
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In my previous posting to this site I discussed the ways in which men who engage in sexual infidelity justify their behavior. Essentially, they tell themselves that what they are doing does not qualify as cheating because they’re only hooking up online, or they’re only having oral sex, or whatever. They seem to think that …
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Detoxing from Valentine’s Day

February 20th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Detoxing from Valentine’s Day)

He loves me, he loves me not? The bigger question is: Why do I care so much?   Well the BIG Day—Valentine’s Day—has come and gone. This day of tension, caused by the painful and anxious feelings produced by your girly thoughts telling you that your lovability is going to be demonstrated by what your …
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Enjoying Your Light by Not Listening to Your Girly Thoughts on Valentine’s Day

February 12th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Enjoying Your Light by Not Listening to Your Girly Thoughts on Valentine’s Day)

There is a crack in everything . . . that’s how the light gets in. —Leonard Cohen   There is something about a holiday—and Valentine’s Day in particular—that makes us focus even more than usual on what we see as our faults. It must be the connection between our powerful, emotional needs for love and the …
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Understanding Men Who Cheat, Part One (Justification and Denial)

January 28th, 2015 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Relationships | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Understanding Men Who Cheat, Part One (Justification and Denial))
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In my previous posting to this site, I wrote about the reasons that women sometimes engage in sexual infidelity, promising that I’d take a look at men in this week’s blog. So, as promised, here is part one of my take on male cheaters…

Does Virtual Sex Count as Cheating?

December 15th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Relationships - (Comments Off on Does Virtual Sex Count as Cheating?)
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In the pre-Internet days of yore, defining sexual infidelity was a pretty straightforward endeavor. If a person was having sex outside his or her supposedly monogamous relationship, then he or she was cheating. Sometimes therapists had to explain to people that yes, oral sex still counts as sex (see: Bill Clinton). But in general those …
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Give from Your Heart, Not Your Girly Thoughts

December 5th, 2014 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Parenting | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Give from Your Heart, Not Your Girly Thoughts)

’Tis the season, with lots of expectations of what you should do, how you should look, and what you should give when gifting. No wonder your girly thoughts, that toxic self-talk that tells you what to do while simultaneously telling you you’re not doing it correctly, have a field day here. In my latest book, …
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