There are many different types of dysfunctional relationships. In codependent types of relationships, a common pattern of behavior that can be found is the anxious-avoidant trap. Sherry Gaba explains this pattern in full detail in her book, The Marriage and Relationship Junkie, and once you know the trap, it is easy to see. The dynamics The …
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Can Marriage Be a Lonely Place?

December 17th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

It seems like a strange contradiction, but it’s not uncommon for people in committed relationships to be lonely. They may miss having a sense of emotional closeness with their partner, or they may just feel a vague sense of dissatisfaction, or that something isn’t right in the relationship. When our emotional needs aren’t being met, …
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Harnessing Energy for Recovery

December 8th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Recovery from any type of addiction is both physically as well as mentally exhausting and draining. For many people, it is literally peeling away layers upon layers of unhealthy behaviors and coping mechanisms to understand the root of the issue and then build new, effective and healthy coping mechanisms and behaviors. With all this energy …
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The One Thing You Absolutely Need to Find a Great Partner

November 8th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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 I’ll admit, that title sounds kind of like an ad for perfume or positivity or plastic surgery. But you don’t need to go shopping for the one thing you absolutely need to find a great partner. Because—surprise!—what you really need is to know in your heart that you’re just fine on your own. That means …
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What Happens After the Breakup

November 2nd, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Love hurts. Sometimes it hurts a lot. However you got here—whether your partner broke up with you, or you decided to break it off—grief is a process you have to work through. Take the time to work all the way through it and you’ll come out the other side stronger and smarter. In the beginning, …
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Why Some People Attract Dysfunctional Relationships

October 23rd, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Most of us tend to pick partners who reflect the vision we have of ourselves and our world. When you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Compatibility and a sense of ease in a relationship come from having similar preferences, ideas, and values about things like money, religion, monogamy, parenting, and even …
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Becoming Comfortable With Yourself As A Single

September 27th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

In society today, as it has been for decades, there is a very different perspective on being single for males and females. Men are seen as being freewheeling and not to become tied down too quickly while women are seen as lonely, depressed or unhappy if they are not in a relationship after they are …
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The Nurturing Obsession

September 5th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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Nurturing someone, helping them to grow and change for the better, is part of a loving relationship. People in healthy relationships often say that over time, their partner has helped them become a better person. But when nurturing turns into an obsession, it becomes a kind of over-parenting without the growth. The idea of a …
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phoneTreating an addition is very different from treating a simple cold. It is more like managing a chronic health condition where it will require constant tending to yourself and your emotional state to avoid a relapse. In this way, a love addict has to continually manage their emotional environment just as an alcohol or drug …
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