The Imago

July 12th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (0 Comments)

According to Harville Hendrix we are attracted to our Imago–what he calls our dream partner– an image of which we carry around in our brain. The Imago is like a puzzle. As we are growing up, every time someone significant in our lives stimulates us it becomes a piece of the puzzle–a memory. Even with …
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What Do You Really Think About Yourself?

June 27th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

If you were to be asked to immediately write down the first 5 words that come to your mind to describe yourself, what would those words be? Would they be different if you knew you had to share them than if you were the only person that would even see the text on the page? …
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Is The Law Of Attraction In Play For An Addict?

June 19th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

It is common to hear addicts talk about themselves as if they were different than other people. They have often gone through so much and felt dehumanized so many times that seeing things work for other people is like watching a foreign film, they can’t understand the message and they don’t get the plot. In …
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Is The Law Of Attraction In Play For An Addict?

May 30th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

It is common to hear addicts talk about themselves as if they were different than other people. They have often gone through so much and felt dehumanized so many times that seeing things work for other people is like watching a foreign film, they can’t understand the message and they don’t get the plot. In …
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Relationship Red Flags

May 10th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Whenever we get into a new romantic relationship, it’s natural for us to be infatuated and want to spend a lot of time with them. For those of us that are codependents or love addicts, we can become dangerously obsessed. The problem is that we don’t have anything to compare ourselves to, so we can’t …
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Signs of Love Addiction

May 1st, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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Love addiction can mean so many different things to people. There is no set diagnosis for it, and no list of things you *must* have or do to have it.  For those of us that know we are love addicts, think back to how hard it was to find out, and then come to terms …
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LOOKING FOR LAUGHTER, JOY AND BEAUTY

April 10th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Most people are aware of what is known as the placebo effect. This is a phenomenon that occurs when someone is told that a pill or a medication they are taking is a cure for a health condition even though it is just a simple sugar pill with no medicinal qualities. People that believe they …
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Addiction, Isolation, And The Law Of Attraction

April 5th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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One of the most common issues that I found when completing research for “The Law of Sobriety” is how addiction and isolation go hand in hand. For most people it is the isolation that triggers the addiction and then the addiction that drives the isolation. Let me explain what I mean. A person, it could …
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Facing the Discomfort of Confrontation

January 19th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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When I started my recovery, my life was full of tons of failed relationships. Time after time, an issue would arise, and the friendship would be over.  When an issue arose, I would either run for the hills, or suffer in silence and pretend there was not a problem.  Usually it was a combination of …
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