In society today, as it has been for decades, there is a very different perspective on being single for males and females. Men are seen as being freewheeling and not to become tied down too quickly while women are seen as lonely, depressed or unhappy if they are not in a relationship after they are …
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The Nurturing Obsession

September 5th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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Nurturing someone, helping them to grow and change for the better, is part of a loving relationship. People in healthy relationships often say that over time, their partner has helped them become a better person. But when nurturing turns into an obsession, it becomes a kind of over-parenting without the growth. The idea of a …
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phoneTreating an addition is very different from treating a simple cold. It is more like managing a chronic health condition where it will require constant tending to yourself and your emotional state to avoid a relapse. In this way, a love addict has to continually manage their emotional environment just as an alcohol or drug …
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The Narcissist Dance

August 14th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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I’ve blogged about narcissists before, but just to get us all on the same page, the Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.” In …
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The Role Of Trauma In Love Addiction

July 31st, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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Trauma can occur in many different forms. For children, the things that create trauma may not be the same as what creates trauma in adults, but there will be areas where there are significant similarities. In my new book “The Marriage and Relationship Junkie” , the role of trauma in love addiction are explored and …
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What Is Relationship And Marriage Addiction?

July 20th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

In a new book “The Marriage and Relationship Junkie,” I  explores the various complexities of relationship addiction. As a guideline to a working definition and a greater understanding, keep in mind that any type of addiction is something that causes a negative occurrence in the individual’s life. The Damage of Addiction Just like being addicted …
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Why We Cross Addict From Substances To Love Addiction

July 12th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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  The expanding body of research into brain-based responses to different types of stimuli has provided greater insight into how humans become addicted. In fact, there is actually a pleasure center in the brain, which is the nucleus accumbens. This is part of the brain that  responds to specific triggers, including romance and sexual desire, …
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What Is Codependency?

May 23rd, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Codependency is one of those words that is thrown around so often and in so many contexts these days that it seems to mean everything and nothing at all. We know codependent relationships are dysfunctional, but it seems that “codependent” has now become a synonym for “unhealthy relationship.” There are lots of kinds of unhealthy …
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Breaking up is Hard to Do

May 9th, 2018 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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Breaking up for some people is like withdrawing from drugs. Withdrawal from love is one of the most painful withdrawals because there is a unique connection between the person affected and his or her need for love as a child. During withdrawal people psychologically go back in time and feel all the losses they felt …
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