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Even though we are 53 percent of the voting public, women do not always see things the same way. But no matter how different our views might be, one thing we do share is being a woman. This means we share similar health worries, have faced similar challenges in our personal lives, and have dealt …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

To be a woman who loves hip hop at times is to be in love with your abuser. —Ava DuVernay     I’m a woman who loves hip hop. I’m pulled in by the energy, the irreverence of some of the lyrics, the sense of being so alive in its beat. And yet, as a woman, …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Good Housekeeping just posted a terrific piece giving advice to mothers, titled, “5 Ways to Encourage Confidence in Your Daughter” An important part of the message is that for women to consciously build confidence in their daughters, they also have to undo the messages they have bought into—self-defeating beliefs and behaviors I call toxic girly …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Did you see the article in Saturday’s New York Times Fashion and Style section titled “I’m Not Mad. That’s Just My RBF”? In it, author Jessica Bennett writes,   For those who need a review, RBF is a face that, when at ease, is perceived as angry, irritated or simply … expressionless. It’s the kind …
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My toxic girly thoughts told me I should just put this information on my website and not make a big deal about it. After all, isn’t this boasting? Then my resilience kicked in and said, “You worked hard to write this book—so shout about it!”   What’s All the Fuss About?   My most recent …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Bristol Palin is in the news again for being pregnant and unmarried. But the real question is: why is this news? Was this an immaculate conception? If not, then we need to ask why this is concerned newsworthy . . .  unless there is an underlying bias.   Why Isn’t the Father in the News? …
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Do you have this constant yammering in your head telling you that you can’t do something, that you’re so dumb you’ll screw this up? Does this toxic inner voice tell you you’re just not smart enough? I’ve named this energy-draining voice girly thoughts. Yes, it’s a miserable name for a terrible feeling we have been …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Shocking? Yes. Toxic girly thoughts, those societally determined standards of right and wrong for women that have you trying to be the good girl in so many ways—including sexually—have had a powerful effect on you. When you consider this, you know you have been conditioned by the media and the greater society to feel comfortable …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

The more you engage and connect, the more engagement and connections you will have. ―Loren Weisman   A common theme in psychotherapy sessions is connection. Women share that they want more connection, particularly with their intimate partners. But the way many women go about this is often self-defeating because they feel they need to fix some …
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