Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Saturday night, I literally fell asleep tweeting. I woke up after six hours and began tweeting again. This is not me. Why did this happen? I was pumped. I was tweeting about Josh Duggar and his sisters. I tweeted my outrage and my concern for the increasing number of sexual abuse survivors who are screaming …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

I met Roseanna recently when I gave a talk at a university. She remembered that I asked women to share their girly thoughts, an obnoxious term I coined to describe that toxic, inner self-talk that plagues and disempowers women.     Roseanna’s Contribution     Roseanna send me a poem she wrote about her sister, …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Sometimes we need a study to prove something we have known for a very long time—that we have been feeling bad about ourselves for as long as we can remember.     Read it and Weep   In an article originally published in Eating Disorders: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention and blogged about by …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

“This is who I am and look at me not being perfect! I’m proud of that.” —Kate Winslet         Girly thoughts are the way you internalize society’s messages about how you should look and should feel. They affect you on many levels, from the way you speak and write about yourself on …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

I’m returning to the scene of the crime (the city I grew up in), New York City, to speak to fellow psychologists, and I’m inviting you to join me! Why? Because as women we all have girly thoughts, and together we can learn to identify them as well as strategize ways to eliminate them. I …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” —Amy Bloom     Beauty should be painful? Really? It is amazing how powerful our girly thoughts are . . .yes, those thoughts that tell us we have to live up to a certain societal standard if we want to be desirable, no matter …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

I am sitting in the living room of a friend who is playing the piano, looking out on the snowy April landscape. She is relaxed; her home is immaculate, which wouldn’t be a cause for surprise except for the fact that she is on day 55 without water. Yes, without water.   In this mountainous …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Have you ever gotten something really wrong? Have you ever based your conclusions on little fact and many feelings, and as a result you painted a truly erroneous picture for yourself of what you were dealing with?   I know I have, and recently.   My latest error didn’t begin with misunderstanding a Facebook post, …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Sexual politics run deep in our responses, even in casual meetings. We act like “dutiful little girls” in our responses, and in an almost instinctive reaction, we do to ourselves what society has taught us to do. This reaction, which I’ve named girly thoughts, is one I fight against, and I’ve coined the term and …
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