LOOKING FOR LAUGHTER, JOY AND BEAUTY

April 10th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Most people are aware of what is known as the placebo effect. This is a phenomenon that occurs when someone is told that a pill or a medication they are taking is a cure for a health condition even though it is just a simple sugar pill with no medicinal qualities. People that believe they …
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Addiction, Isolation, And The Law Of Attraction

April 5th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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One of the most common issues that I found when completing research for “The Law of Sobriety” is how addiction and isolation go hand in hand. For most people it is the isolation that triggers the addiction and then the addiction that drives the isolation. Let me explain what I mean. A person, it could …
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Are you making BIG plans for St. Patrick’s Day? Consider making this St. Patrick’s Day a sober one—for your sake.   Pub Crawl, Anyone?   St. Patrick’s Day used to be a day for families to celebrate the best in Irish culture. This included everything from proudly marching in a local parade to the “wearing …
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A Valentine’s Day Detox

February 25th, 2017 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off)
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He loves me, he loves me not? The bigger question is: Why do I care so much?     Well, the BIG Day—Valentine’s Day—has come and gone. This day of tension, caused by the painful and anxious feelings  produced by your girly thoughts telling you that your lovability is demonstrated by what your partner does or …
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A few weeks ago, a writer for Glamour.com contacted me about an article she was working on—on sober dating. I was excited, but not surprised that sobriety is being discovered by women’s media. It was a fun project that produced a terrific article, which I encourage you to read: Eight Amazing Thing You Learn from …
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In a previous posting to this site I wrote about the basic ways in which addiction treatment specialists and other therapists can fold 12 step principals and themes into therapy. In that article I discussed the belief that clinicians treating addicts should generally steer their clients toward the external social support and guidance offered by …
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Facing the Discomfort of Confrontation

January 19th, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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When I started my recovery, my life was full of tons of failed relationships. Time after time, an issue would arise, and the friendship would be over.  When an issue arose, I would either run for the hills, or suffer in silence and pretend there was not a problem.  Usually it was a combination of …
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Back in the 1990s, the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) published a monograph intended for use by therapists dealing with alcohol dependent individuals. Essentially, the NIAAA recommended that clinicians steer their alcoholic clients into Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) while simultaneously incorporating the principles of AA’s twelve steps into therapy sessions. The NIAAA’s monograph …
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Detaching With Love

January 2nd, 2017 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
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We all have people we are attached to.  Some attachments are different than others – for instance, the attachment to our parents will be different than the attachment to our friends or partners.  As love addicts and codependents, however, we often find ourselves too attached to someone.  We can’t get over our last relationship, and …
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