Hi guys.  Today I want to talk a little bit about the topic of letting go of our fears of abandonment.  I think it’s a really important subject when delving into love addiction and co-dependency, and fear of abandonment is one of the main things that prevents people from getting out of unhealthy relationships. The …
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Surrender versus Control

August 16th, 2016 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Today, the topic I want to talk about is surrender versus control.  A big part of co-dependency and addiction is the idea of control.  So much in our lives has been chaos, and we hold tight to the idea that we have control over things or people to try to keep ourselves on our feet.  …
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Have you ever wondered why it is so difficult for you to take a compliment? Why you tend to disparage your achievements while men more readily acknowledge theirs?   Girly Thoughts   Well, stop beating yourself up. The answer is that you have learned to do to yourself what society does to you: criticize yourself …
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Pokémon Go: Harmless Entertainment or Addiction?

August 2nd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction - (Comments Off)

I live in Santa Monica, an overgrown beach town partially subsumed by the urban sprawl of Los Angeles. Near my house there are some really great walkways, both on the bluff overlooking the beach and lower down, adjacent to the beach itself. It’s a great place to get some exercise while enjoying the sunshine. Lately, …
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Identifiable Risk Factors After multiple instances of mass violence in the past year (Dallas, Orlando, San Bernardino, Colorado Springs, and Charleston, to name but a few), the ability to identify and treat individuals who are predisposed to violent behaviors is more vital than ever. Unfortunately, even mental health professionals are not very good at predicting …
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        Sunday night I had a huge first  . . . I performed in an actual concert hall, with an orchestra, with a new conductor! How was I? So nervous! But my nervousness didn’t go in the direction of doubting myself, being critical of my appearance, wishing I had lost weight, or …
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Make Anger Your Friend

July 18th, 2016 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts - (Comments Off)
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It may be hard to believe that your anger is your friend. But it is. Your anger is a powerful emotion, one that demands attention, often one that makes you want to take action. Viewed this way, your anger can actually become your friend by positively changing your life. Sound crazy?   Why You’re Afraid …
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“Covert incest occurs when a child becomes the object of a parent’s affection, love, passion, and preoccupation. … The boundary between caring love and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child. … The child feels used and trapped; …
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  It’s summer, and you’re enjoying shedding the coat, boots, and scarf. You want to feel the air blowing your hair and sunlight on your skin. But, you consider, how much skin should you be showing? You want to feel the freedom that comes with summer, but not necessarily feel like you are dressing unprofessionally, …
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