Black and White Thinking

August 31st, 2016 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Growing up with an alcoholic parent, we were taught to see things in extremes.  It was either the best possible thing that could ever happen, or the worst possible thing that could ever happen.  Our parents had been taught, and were passing on to us, the lesson that people in the world are good or …
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Expectations: we all have them. Maybe we wake up and think it will be a good day. You were on time all morning, and just about to get to work when an obstacle arises, causing you to be late, thus ruining your momentum, perhaps even your day. We have all heard the sayings, “expect the …
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Hi everyone!  Today i want to cover the topic of intimacy, something vital to each of our lives, and a topic that is a big part of love addiction and codependency. A lot of us have found that in relationships, we have lost ourselves, and a big struggle is trying to rebuild our behavior patterns …
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Sex Addicts and Their Underlying Issues

August 23rd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off)

In today’s world, almost every psychotherapeutic clinician encounters at least a few clients who are behaving in sexually compulsive ways. The first step in treating these clients, the same as with any disorder, involves proper assessment. Unfortunately, very few biopsychosocial instruments cover sexual issues in any sort of meaningful way. Thus, I suggest that clinicians …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

The  label depicts a pair of women’s legs wearing a man’s top hat. The new craft brew from Oval Craft Brewing is named Prom Night Cherry. And it is a cause for alarm among the community members of Plattsburgh, NY, parents, educators, and leaders, who work tirelessly to make prom night enjoyable and safe for …
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Hi guys.  Today I want to talk a little bit about the topic of letting go of our fears of abandonment.  I think it’s a really important subject when delving into love addiction and co-dependency, and fear of abandonment is one of the main things that prevents people from getting out of unhealthy relationships. The …
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Surrender versus Control

August 16th, 2016 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Today, the topic I want to talk about is surrender versus control.  A big part of co-dependency and addiction is the idea of control.  So much in our lives has been chaos, and we hold tight to the idea that we have control over things or people to try to keep ourselves on our feet.  …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Have you ever wondered why it is so difficult for you to take a compliment? Why you tend to disparage your achievements while men more readily acknowledge theirs?   Girly Thoughts   Well, stop beating yourself up. The answer is that you have learned to do to yourself what society does to you: criticize yourself …
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Pokémon Go: Harmless Entertainment or Addiction?

August 2nd, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction - (Comments Off)

I live in Santa Monica, an overgrown beach town partially subsumed by the urban sprawl of Los Angeles. Near my house there are some really great walkways, both on the bluff overlooking the beach and lower down, adjacent to the beach itself. It’s a great place to get some exercise while enjoying the sunshine. Lately, …
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