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Awareness, not deprivation, informs what you eat.” —Geneen Roth   Yes, over the holidays you ate more than you wished you had, and now you feel . . . fat.   Girly Thought #1: I’m Fat   Become aware that the multi-billion dollar diet industry has ramped up, telling you that you need to lose …
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Many things probably turn you on, as they should. One thing that really turns me on is going to the Electric City. For those of you who do not know the lore of upstate New York, this city is also called Schenectady, and it’s the home of GE, aka General Electric.   It is also …
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Have you ever been on the front page of your local newspaper? I don’t mean as a cute baby in the Easter Parade, or for having committed some terrible crime, or for being awarded a prestigious prize, but as an adult, and just because you were happy?   I was, and here’s the proof:   …
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I was in my local health food store when I saw a neighbor and we began chatting. When she asked what I was up to, I told her about my recent blog on giving up a girly thought for Lent—you remember, the one where I suggested you give up one girly thought for Lent.   …
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If you don’t know yet, Monica Lewinsky has gone public with a Ted Talk. It is well worth seeing because she does what I’ve been inviting you to do:   Stop listening to your girly thoughts; that toxic inner dialogue that blames you for anything that goes wrong in your life.     Monica’s Courage   …
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“Lent comes providentially to reawaken us, to shake us from our lethargy.” —Pope Francis     Whether you are Christian or not, or devout or not, you are probably aware that we have entered Lent, a season of spiritual growth and self-examination, which often includes fasting and a tradition of giving something up (even though …
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So often we feel it is not good to be angry—particularly at work, where we’ll be seen and judged. We fear our anger is unbecoming, and that if we let ourselves get angry, we won’t be liked or that we’ll be labeled the dreaded “B-word.” Instead, we tell ourselves we should be pleasing, approachable, not …
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He loves me, he loves me not? The bigger question is: Why do I care so much?   Well the BIG Day—Valentine’s Day—has come and gone. This day of tension, caused by the painful and anxious feelings produced by your girly thoughts telling you that your lovability is going to be demonstrated by what your …
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Psychologist in private practice in Albany, Saranac Lake,  New York, is noted for her work in child welfare, mental health, and substance abuse. She has served as a consultant to organizations in preventative and clinical strategic planning. Dr. O'Gorman is a cofounder of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics, and has held positions ranging from clinical director of child welfare agency to interim director of a crime victims organization to director of prevention for NIAAA. Dr. O'Gorman is author of The Resilient Woman: Mastering the 7 Steps to Personal Power.

  I was a recent speaker at a “Theology on Tap” lecture. This speaker series takes place in the fun, relaxed setting of a local pub, and my topic, of course, was my latest book, The Resilient Woman. All was going well when I was asked, “Who are your models for resilience?” I had an …
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