Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

He loves me, he loves me not? The bigger question is: Why do I care so much?     Well, the BIG Day—Valentine’s Day—has come and gone. This day of tension, caused by the painful and anxious feelings  produced by your girly thoughts telling you that your lovability is demonstrated by what your partner does or …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Ever want to soar above your troubles, be more in the moment instead of all in your head? The answer: Look up, then look in . . . Yesterday I happened across a video of what an eagle needs to do to thrive. I invite you to watch it to see what it takes to …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

There is nothing like getting an award to make you pay attention to the group that is giving it. This was my experience when I was told I was receiving the Emerald Spirits Award from Sober St. Patrick’s Day. Sober St Patrick’s Day? I had vaguely heard of the group, but now I needed to learn …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Lady Gaga made news yet again, this time by publicly sharing during the Oscars that she was raped at age 19. Yes, she set off shock waves around the world, not just because she shared something so intimate, but because she challenged each of us to consider how we talk about rape in our own …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

 Wanting to be liked is important to all of us, and yes, we’re feeling the pressure on Valentine’s Day. But for you, and for many other women, this desire can move from wanting to be liked to desperately needing to be liked once a man enters the picture. For this, you pay a huge price—you …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Awareness, not deprivation, informs what you eat.” —Geneen Roth   Yes, over the holidays you ate more than you wished you had, and now you feel . . . fat.   Girly Thought #1: I’m Fat   Become aware that the multi-billion dollar diet industry has ramped up, telling you that you need to lose …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Austin Geidt credits her road to sobriety with her success in developing Uber. But that’s not the whole story. Let’s understand what she is saying in terms of how this journey also helped her re-define herself as a woman. Her road to recovery had her going back to basics, dropping out of college, and getting …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

It’s the happy holiday season, and you’re already feeling the pressure. If you’re like most of us, you’re already hearing that inner voice that pushes you to do more, reminding you that it is up to you to make this a holiday season to remember while telling you that no matter what you’re doing, it …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

Have you ever met someone and thought, “Wow, here’s someone without girly thoughts!”? That’s not unusual for me. When I meet a woman for the first time, I quickly assess to see if she is measures herself against societal standards and the self-defeating thoughts I’ve named “girly thoughts.” I always silently applaud when I encounter someone who doesn’t. Alese is one such …
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