Gay Men, Sex, and Addiction

September 18th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Gay Men, Sex, and Addiction)
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History and Culture There is a widely held perception that gay men are, by nature, hypersexual. This is not in fact the case. In reality, gay men are no more or less sexual than their straight and bisexual counterparts. Perhaps some of this “oversexed” belief arises from the fact that  “gay sex” is still an …
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Is it Love or Codependency?

August 28th, 2014 | Posted by Joan Childs in Love Addiction | Relationships - (Comments Off on Is it Love or Codependency?)

By now everyone has heard of the term, “codependent”.  Since the 80’s this word has been passed down for nearly 3 decades since Melody Beattie coined the word for those folks who were addicted to the addict.  (Codependent No More)  Since its original coining, that word has morphed into many meanings, until today, when it …
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Issues with Diagnosing Female Sex and Love Addicts

August 18th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Issues with Diagnosing Female Sex and Love Addicts)
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Much of the time, female sexual addicts are more difficult to diagnose and therefore treat than male sexual addicts. This may be due in large part to our Western socio-cultural attitudes about sexuality among women. Whereas men who have a lot of sex are often celebrated as “studs” and “players,” hypersexual women are typically denigrated …
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Are Sex Addicts Also Sex Offenders?

August 8th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Are Sex Addicts Also Sex Offenders?)
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Today, as the trauma-based neurobiological problem of sexual addiction becomes more universally understood and accepted, sexual offenders who’ve been arrested for illegal sexual activity sometimes grasp at the “sex addiction” label, hoping to use it as an excuse for their behavior. One of the most egregious examples of this was Ariel Castro, the Ohio man …
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Fusing Sexual Addiction and Stimulant Drug Abuse

July 24th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Drug Addiction | Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Fusing Sexual Addiction and Stimulant Drug Abuse)
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Joe, a 32-year-old gay man, abuses meth while he compulsively looks for and engages in anonymous sex in bathhouses and other sex-focused venues – often for days on end without even pausing to sleep. Recently he was fired from his job for repeatedly failing to show up. Marie, a 20-year-old college student, has gotten involved …
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Treating Spouses Affected by Infidelity and Sexual Addiction

July 8th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Treating Spouses Affected by Infidelity and Sexual Addiction)
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Recognizing the Pain For spouses and partners of sex addicts, it’s not the extramarital sex itself that causes the most pain. Instead, it’s the betrayal of relationship trust – the lying, the secrets, and the ongoing deceit. For a healthy, emotionally attached primary partner this experience of profound and usually unexpected betrayal can be incredibly …
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Double Trouble: Cross- and Co-Occurring Addictions

June 19th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction - (Comments Off on Double Trouble: Cross- and Co-Occurring Addictions)
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With cross-addiction, addicts switch from one problematic substance/behavior to another. If they can’t use one substance/activity to escape and dissociate from life, they’ll use another. For instance, Marie is an active alcoholic who occasionally feels bad about her drinking and sobers up. But any time she stops drinking, she binge eats, numbing out with food …
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Understanding Porn Addiction (and the Role of Technology)

June 6th, 2014 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Addiction - (Comments Off on Understanding Porn Addiction (and the Role of Technology))
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Pornography addiction is one of the most common forms of sexual addiction. It is not unusual for porn abuse to be coupled with compulsive masturbation and/or various forms of non-intimate partner sex such as webcam sex, sexting, anonymous sex, casual sex, affairs, use of prostitutes, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc. That said, porn addiction is often a …
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What Do We Mean by Relationship Trauma?

May 30th, 2014 | Posted by Tian Dayton in ACoA | Addiction & Recovery | Adolescents | Adolescents' Issues | Family Issues | PTSD | Relationships | Trauma - (Comments Off on What Do We Mean by Relationship Trauma?)

(Note, continued training along with streaming video available on “The Workshop” on the www.tiandayton.com membership site) Relationship trauma is the kind of emotional and psychological trauma that occurs within the context of relationships. We are biologically wired to seek close and ongoing connection. It’s nature’s way of insuring that parents stay committed enough to children …
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