
Lady Gaga made news yet again, this time by publicly sharing during the Oscars that she was raped at age 19. Yes, she set off shock waves around the world, not just because she shared something so intimate, but because she challenged each of us to consider how we talk about rape in our own …
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Wanting to be liked is important to all of us, and yes, we’re feeling the pressure on Valentine’s Day. But for you, and for many other women, this desire can move from wanting to be liked to desperately needing to be liked once a man enters the picture. For this, you pay a huge price—you …
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Awareness, not deprivation, informs what you eat.” —Geneen Roth Yes, over the holidays you ate more than you wished you had, and now you feel . . . fat. Girly Thought #1: I’m Fat Become aware that the multi-billion dollar diet industry has ramped up, telling you that you need to lose …
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Austin Geidt credits her road to sobriety with her success in developing Uber. But that’s not the whole story. Let’s understand what she is saying in terms of how this journey also helped her re-define herself as a woman. Her road to recovery had her going back to basics, dropping out of college, and getting …
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It’s the happy holiday season, and you’re already feeling the pressure. If you’re like most of us, you’re already hearing that inner voice that pushes you to do more, reminding you that it is up to you to make this a holiday season to remember while telling you that no matter what you’re doing, it …
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Have you ever met someone and thought, “Wow, here’s someone without girly thoughts!”? That’s not unusual for me. When I meet a woman for the first time, I quickly assess to see if she is measures herself against societal standards and the self-defeating thoughts I’ve named “girly thoughts.” I always silently applaud when I encounter someone who doesn’t. Alese is one such …
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The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. —Gloria Steinman Are you aware that most drug studies are conducted on men? This has been true for testing even “routine” medications that are taken by both women and men. The reason always given …
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Have you ever read anything on Facebook that caused you to tear up? Yesterday I had that experience when reading “Husband’s Heartwarming Response to Retouched Boudoir Photos of His Wife.” In her article, Barbara Diamond perfectly captures how our toxic girly thoughts have us doing to ourselves what society does to us: focusing on …
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