Surrender versus Control

August 16th, 2016 | Posted by Sherry Gaba in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

Today, the topic I want to talk about is surrender versus control.  A big part of co-dependency and addiction is the idea of control.  So much in our lives has been chaos, and we hold tight to the idea that we have control over things or people to try to keep ourselves on our feet.  …
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Protective Software Products for Recovering Sex Addicts

June 15th, 2016 | Posted by Rob Weiss in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)

In today’s world you’d be hard-pressed to find a sex addict whose compulsive behaviors are not facilitated by digital devices—computers, laptops, pads, tablets, smartphones, etc. Fifteen years ago, it was reasonable to suggest that sex addicts who were acting out via technology should stay away from computers and the Internet altogether, or, if they absolutely …
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Rob Weiss Sex Addiction Expert

In my two previous postings to this site, I have addressed single recovering sex addicts’ readiness for dating and the formulation of a plan for healthy dating. I have not, however, addressed the fact that meeting and dating in the 21st century is more often than not facilitated by digital devices. In fact, in today’s …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

So often we feel it is not good to be angry—particularly at work, where we’ll be seen and judged. We fear our anger is unbecoming, and that if we let ourselves get angry, we won’t be liked or that we’ll be labeled the dreaded “B-word.” Instead, we tell ourselves we should be pleasing, approachable, not …
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Pat OGorman headshot new 10-27-14

 “How do you spell ‘love’?” – Piglet “You don’t spell it . . . you feel it.” – Pooh —A.A. Milne, Winnie The Pooh   Perhaps no other holiday creates as much tension as Valentine’s Day. This is the day of love, of being loved, and of receiving gifts; all of which say that all …
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Girly Thoughts Detox

By Patricia O’Gorman, PhD Author of The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power  (publication date 10.28.14)       The Resilient Woman: Mastering the 7 Steps to Personal Power (2013)       Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting—The Codependency Connection (2012)       The recent public …
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Remembering Counselor Contributor David J. Powell, PhD

November 13th, 2013 | Posted by Editor in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
David Powell Photo

We regret to inform our readers that long-time Counselor magazine columnist and contributor, David J. Powell, PhD, died on November 1, 2013. He is survived by his wife Barbara and their daughters Heather and Kirstin. Dr. Powell was an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry within the Department of Psychiatry at the Yale University School of …
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What is it like to be a Sex Addict?

For many under-informed folks, a kneejerk reaction to the phrase “sex addiction” is for them to say something along the lines of, “Now that’s an addiction I’d like to have. Where do I sign up?” In reality, however, sexual addiction is not nearly as much fun as it sounds. Try thinking of it this way: …
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Digital Dreams and Your Girlie Thoughts

November 5th, 2013 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Uncategorized - (Comments Off)
Psychologist in private practice in Albany, Saranac Lake,  New York, is noted for her work in child welfare, mental health, and substance abuse. She has served as a consultant to organizations in preventative and clinical strategic planning. Dr. O'Gorman is a cofounder of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics, and has held positions ranging from clinical director of child welfare agency to interim director of a crime victims organization to director of prevention for NIAAA. Dr. O'Gorman is author of The Resilient Woman: Mastering the 7 Steps to Personal Power.

In case you think you are not really affected by the media, watch this short video. It shows a perfectly lovely young woman who is digitally altered—and I’m not speaking about the changes we all enjoy, like adding makeup and doing our hair. This is on a whole different level. Here is a short, brilliant …
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