Sherry Gaba, LCSW, a psychotherapist and life, love, and recovery coach, is featured on Celebrity Rehab on VH1. Sherry is the author of The Law of Sobriety, which uses the Law of Attraction to help people recover from addiction. Get your free meditation audio MP3 How to Attract Positive Energy and to learn more about Wake Up Recovery at wakeuprecovery.com. She is also a contributor to Chicken Soup for the Soul: Tough Times, Tough People and Conscious Entrepreneurs, and to several e-books: Empowerment Manual: Finding Purpose With Intention, Filling the Empty Heart: 5 Keys to Transforming Love Addiction. The e-books Relapse Prevention and Eliminate Limiting Beliefs can be downloaded free of charge at www.sherrygaba.com. Contact Sherry for webinars, teleseminars, coaching packages, and speaking engagements.
If you have ever had a breakup, and who hasn’t, you have probably had a friend try to encourage you by saying there are lots of fish in the ocean. And, they usually go on to say, you are going to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right and your world will be absolutely perfect, you just have to give it time.
In reality time is not the critical element. While you do need time to deal with your own issues and your own possible contribution to the breakup, you also have to create a mindset about your new relationship. Think of this as an exercise to create an energy source, a positive one, which will be sent out into the universe around you.
This positive energy needs to focus in on what you want in a partner. Sometimes when people hear this they think just of the physical traits. While the physical aspect is important, it is the emotional, spiritual and personality issues that are the keys to a successful relationship. By clearly defining what it is you want in a partner you will then be able to send that positive energy out to the world around you. And, with patience and an open mind, that person will come into your life.
To get started in creating this positive energy and mindset work through the following exercises every day. Remember the more time and effort you put into this the more comprehensive your communication to the world around you will be.
Tip 1: List the traits that you have that you are grateful for
By identifying what we value in ourselves and giving thanks and gratitude for that character we will attract like people. Making a list of the qualities we have that we value is not always an easy task, but it is essential in sending out positive energy to the world around us.
Tip 2: Be open for opportunity
You have to be open to meeting new people and be comfortable in putting yourself in situations where you have new people to interact with. Sending out positive messages and then declining social events is not going to allow you to take advantages of the opportunities the universe is creating.
Tip 3: Cultivate friendships and contentment in your life as a single
Excessive fixation on meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right is going to create a lack of balance in your energy. You stop sending out positives to the universe and start demanding things happen. When this is the case you are no longer positive or balanced. Instead, focus in on living your life fully as a single person while still being open for that individual to enter your life.