Wanting to be liked is important to all of us, and yes, we’re feeling the pressure on Valentine’s Day.
But for you, and for many other women, this desire can move from wanting to be liked to desperately needing to be liked once a man enters the picture. For this, you pay a huge price—you give up your power to figure out what is best for you!
Your Toxic Girly Thoughts In Action
When the way we are supposed to act and, very importantly, how we are supposed to look become decisions we allow someone else makes for us, we give up our personal power. We do this because of the negative self-talk we invite to reside in our heads, and I call these ideas toxic girly thoughts.
Read this post from Brittaney about how she allowed her boyfriend to govern:
- the length of her hair
- the color of her hair
- her makeup
- her clothes
- her weight
- even her tattoos
Brittaney stopped listening to her toxic girly thoughts—but how?
The answer is to tune into your Resilient Voice, the part of you that knows what is right for you, the part of you that your toxic girly thoughts try to drown out.
This Valentine’s Day, try this:
- If your boyfriend wants you to have short hair when you like your hair better long, choose what you like and makes you feel good about yourself when you look in the mirror.
- When he wants you to have blonde hair and you like it auburn, wear your hair the color you think best expresses who you are.
And if you think he’s the makeup artist you’ve been waiting for, or the medical personnel you’ve needed to guide you in health care decisions, or the dress designer who knows better than you what looks best on you … well …
Think again, and maybe, consider a new boyfriend. Now that could make for a good Valentine’s Day.
Now say: I know what is best for me.
Because you really do!
Remember, you’ll find more ideas for getting rid of your negative self-talk in my two latest books, The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power and The Resilient Woman: Mastering The 7 Steps to Personal Power.