In today’s world, all sorts of people are misdiagnosed, by self or others, as sexually addicted. This occurs for any number of reasons. Recognizing this, it is imperative that addiction therapists and other clinicians learn to differentiate between those who are and those who are not sexually addicted. Otherwise, we risk over-treating and/or mistreating clients—either …
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I spend a lot of time and effort in this space describing sexual addiction—what it is, how it can be identified, and how it can best be treated. However, sex is not the only behavioral addiction. In fact, just as it is with pleasure-inducing substances, almost any pleasure-inducing behavior can be used in an addictive …
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Psychotherapists dealing with sexual issues, in particular sex and porn addiction, have stated for several years that one of the consequences porn abusing male clients are commonly reporting is sexual dysfunction—most often erectile dysfunction (ED) but also delayed ejaculation (DE) and sometimes even a complete inability to reach orgasm (anorgasmia). Interestingly, many such clients say …
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In today’s world, pretty much everyone has a laptop, tablet, and/or smartphone. As such, pretty much everyone has 24/7 access to everything the internet and smartphone apps have to offer—including sex and romance. And because of this, sexual addiction is very much on the rise. For most people, of course, digital sexnology is not an …
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When I first realized I was a codependent, one of the things that I began to understand was that I lived my life playing the victim. Everything was always happening TO me, people were always doing harm to me, and I was completely innocent, and the list could go on forever. I victimized myself, …
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Many of us have heard the phrase, “When you point your finger at someone else, remember you have three fingers pointed back at you.” It took me a long time to truly get an understanding for this phrase. It wasn’t until going into recovery for codependence that I finally realized what it meant. Now, it …
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Expectations: we all have them. Maybe we wake up and think it will be a good day. You were on time all morning, and just about to get to work when an obstacle arises, causing you to be late, thus ruining your momentum, perhaps even your day. We have all heard the sayings, “expect the …
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Hi everyone! Today i want to cover the topic of intimacy, something vital to each of our lives, and a topic that is a big part of love addiction and codependency. A lot of us have found that in relationships, we have lost ourselves, and a big struggle is trying to rebuild our behavior patterns …
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In today’s world, almost every psychotherapeutic clinician encounters at least a few clients who are behaving in sexually compulsive ways. The first step in treating these clients, the same as with any disorder, involves proper assessment. Unfortunately, very few biopsychosocial instruments cover sexual issues in any sort of meaningful way. Thus, I suggest that clinicians …
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