So often we feel it is not good to be angry—particularly at work, where we’ll be seen and judged. We fear our anger is unbecoming, and that if we let ourselves get angry, we won’t be liked or that we’ll be labeled the dreaded “B-word.” Instead, we tell ourselves we should be pleasing, approachable, not …
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“How do you spell ‘love’?” – Piglet “You don’t spell it . . . you feel it.” – Pooh —A.A. Milne, Winnie The Pooh Perhaps no other holiday creates as much tension as Valentine’s Day. This is the day of love, of being loved, and of receiving gifts; all of which say that all …
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By Patricia O’Gorman, PhD Author of The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide to Saying NO to Negative Self-Talk and YES to Personal Power (publication date 10.28.14) The Resilient Woman: Mastering the 7 Steps to Personal Power (2013) Healing Trauma Through Self-Parenting—The Codependency Connection (2012) The recent public …
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We regret to inform our readers that long-time Counselor magazine columnist and contributor, David J. Powell, PhD, died on November 1, 2013. He is survived by his wife Barbara and their daughters Heather and Kirstin. Dr. Powell was an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry within the Department of Psychiatry at the Yale University School of …
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For many under-informed folks, a kneejerk reaction to the phrase “sex addiction” is for them to say something along the lines of, “Now that’s an addiction I’d like to have. Where do I sign up?” In reality, however, sexual addiction is not nearly as much fun as it sounds. Try thinking of it this way: …
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In case you think you are not really affected by the media, watch this short video. It shows a perfectly lovely young woman who is digitally altered—and I’m not speaking about the changes we all enjoy, like adding makeup and doing our hair. This is on a whole different level. Here is a short, brilliant …
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In back-to-back weeks two wide-release, A-list cast films examining the issue of sexual addiction were released. These are the first films directly addressing the issue since the critically acclaimed Shame hit theatres in 2011. Shame, as the few people who saw it will almost certainly remember, was a gritty depiction of an active sex addict …
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I sometimes notice substance abuse professionals who believe they understand addiction concepts and behaviors when, in fact, they don’t. One main reason for this false impression is that they have a profound belief that naming a particular behavior or concept, explains it. A more technical term for this naming problem is the phrase called the …
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When you begin to feel beaten down it can lead to settling for less. In the face of problems we often lower the bar and no longer want the best for ourselves. However, we should remember that no one rises to low expectations.
