To be a woman who loves hip hop at times is to be in love with your abuser. —Ava DuVernay I’m a woman who loves hip hop. I’m pulled in by the energy, the irreverence of some of the lyrics, the sense of being so alive in its beat. And yet, as a woman, …
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Good Housekeeping just posted a terrific piece giving advice to mothers, titled, “5 Ways to Encourage Confidence in Your Daughter” An important part of the message is that for women to consciously build confidence in their daughters, they also have to undo the messages they have bought into—self-defeating beliefs and behaviors I call toxic girly …
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The three primary elements for a diagnosis of sexual addiction are as follows: Preoccupation to the point of obsession with sexual fantasies and behaviors Loss of control over sexual fantasies and behaviors, typically evidenced by multiple failed attempts to either quit, alter, or curtail these activities Negative life consequences directly related to out-of-control sexual fantasies …
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Did you see the article in Saturday’s New York Times Fashion and Style section titled “I’m Not Mad. That’s Just My RBF”? In it, author Jessica Bennett writes, For those who need a review, RBF is a face that, when at ease, is perceived as angry, irritated or simply … expressionless. It’s the kind …
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/candace-johnson/living-in-the-moment_b_7754246.html I’ve attached a blog written by someone who may be familiar to you, Candace Johnson, the editor of my last three books, who I praise in my acknowledgments. She sent me this blog on July 11, just before my book signing in Lake Placid, NY. With all of the busyness of my life, …
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My toxic girly thoughts told me I should just put this information on my website and not make a big deal about it. After all, isn’t this boasting? Then my resilience kicked in and said, “You worked hard to write this book—so shout about it!” What’s All the Fuss About? My most recent …
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Addiction and the Brain Addiction is sometimes referred to as a “brain disease,” primarily because it is the brain’s neurochemical pleasure response that drives it. Put simply, addictive substances and behaviors trigger the release of various pleasure-inducing neurotransmitters – primarily dopamine but also adrenaline, oxytocin, serotonin, and a variety of endorphins – into the nucleus …
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Bristol Palin is in the news again for being pregnant and unmarried. But the real question is: why is this news? Was this an immaculate conception? If not, then we need to ask why this is concerned newsworthy . . . unless there is an underlying bias. Why Isn’t the Father in the News? …
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Do you have this constant yammering in your head telling you that you can’t do something, that you’re so dumb you’ll screw this up? Does this toxic inner voice tell you you’re just not smart enough? I’ve named this energy-draining voice girly thoughts. Yes, it’s a miserable name for a terrible feeling we have been …
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