Not long ago, in response to a cultural shift I’ve observed in recent years, I coined the term “sologamy,” defining it as the state of being single and not wanting a romantic or sexual relationship. Once upon a time, of course, sologamy was almost unthinkable. Living solo was looked upon as highly undesirable and something …
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Denial…It ain’t just a river in Egypt! The degrees of it in our lives vary, but I firmly believe that every single human on Earth has experienced it at some point in our lives. This is because, for a time, denial serves us. We deny what we cannot accept or handle, and it protects us …
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Today I want to do a little something together. You’re going to need a pen and paper, because we are going to write our action plans for the day (if you’re reading this at night, go ahead and do tomorrow’s). As a codependent, one of the things I tend to do is procrastinate. Some things …
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“She gained a massive amount of weight . . . it was a real problem.” —Donald Trump Weight is a h-u-g-e issue for you—no pun intended. If you’re like most American women, you probably go on an endless stream of diets. try on a pile of clothes …
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In today’s world, pretty much everyone has a laptop, tablet, and/or smartphone. As such, pretty much everyone has 24/7 access to everything the internet and smartphone apps have to offer—including sex and romance. And because of this, sexual addiction is very much on the rise. For most people, of course, digital sexnology is not an …
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I think it’s safe to say that most of us have heard someone say, “Visualize what you want and you will get/achieve it,” in our lifetimes. If we’re lucky, we’ve heard it more than once, and if we are even luckier, we’ve tried one ourselves and found that it can be a great …
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“She couldn’t satisfy her husband.” —Donald Trump speaking about Hillary Clinton Donald Trump has spewed plenty of cringe-worthy, even disgusting, statements thus far in his presidential campaign, but one of the most bizarre was when he challenged his rival about her sexual desirability and blamed her for her husband’s affairs. Since the time I …
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When I first realized I was a codependent, one of the things that I began to understand was that I lived my life playing the victim. Everything was always happening TO me, people were always doing harm to me, and I was completely innocent, and the list could go on forever. I victimized myself, …
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Many of us have heard the phrase, “When you point your finger at someone else, remember you have three fingers pointed back at you.” It took me a long time to truly get an understanding for this phrase. It wasn’t until going into recovery for codependence that I finally realized what it meant. Now, it …
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