Women in sports take a great deal of abuse, and most of it is off the field. Professional women athletes are criticized in both public and social media for being competent, for being aggressive, and for winning. Consider the sexist remarks made before the women’s final of the BNP Paribas Open. Indian Wells CEO Raymond …
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Jeremy is a 39-year-old electrician and a married father of three. From a distance, his life looks OK. He’s got a steady job, a nice house, and a family. Yet he’s entered therapy (without telling his wife) for what feels to him like depression and debilitating anxiety. And this is not his first secretive trip …
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Josh grew up in a highly dysfunctional home. His father drank and raged (mostly at his mother, but also at him and his older brother). His mother enabled the drinking and tolerated the verbal and physical abuse mostly without complaint, seemingly blaming herself for her husband’s alcoholism and temper. When things got really bad, Josh …
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There is nothing like getting an award to make you pay attention to the group that is giving it. This was my experience when I was told I was receiving the Emerald Spirits Award from Sober St. Patrick’s Day. Sober St Patrick’s Day? I had vaguely heard of the group, but now I needed to learn …
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In my two previous postings to this site, I have addressed single recovering sex addicts’ readiness for dating and the formulation of a plan for healthy dating. I have not, however, addressed the fact that meeting and dating in the 21st century is more often than not facilitated by digital devices. In fact, in today’s …
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Lady Gaga made news yet again, this time by publicly sharing during the Oscars that she was raped at age 19. Yes, she set off shock waves around the world, not just because she shared something so intimate, but because she challenged each of us to consider how we talk about rape in our own …
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Celia, a 32-year-old businesswoman, 11 months sober from sex and love addiction, has decided that she is ready to start dating again. However, she is worried about relapsing, especially because she has tried to establish lasting sex and relationship sobriety several times in the past without much luck. This time, however, she plans to do …
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“She couldn’t satisfy her husband.” —Donald Trump speaking about Hillary Clinton A presidential hopeful challenges his possible rival about her sexual desirability and blames her for her husband’s affairs. Is this message of a woman’s responsibility for something familiar to you? Do you stifle your infuriation because this sounds right? Where’s your outrage? …
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Wanting to be liked is important to all of us, and yes, we’re feeling the pressure on Valentine’s Day. But for you, and for many other women, this desire can move from wanting to be liked to desperately needing to be liked once a man enters the picture. For this, you pay a huge price—you …
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