It’s the happy holiday season, and you’re already feeling the pressure. If you’re like most of us, you’re already hearing that inner voice that pushes you to do more, reminding you that it is up to you to make this a holiday season to remember while telling you that no matter what you’re doing, it …
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Have you ever met someone and thought, “Wow, here’s someone without girly thoughts!”? That’s not unusual for me. When I meet a woman for the first time, I quickly assess to see if she is measures herself against societal standards and the self-defeating thoughts I’ve named “girly thoughts.” I always silently applaud when I encounter someone who doesn’t. Alese is one such …
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The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. —Gloria Steinman Are you aware that most drug studies are conducted on men? This has been true for testing even “routine” medications that are taken by both women and men. The reason always given …
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Have you ever read anything on Facebook that caused you to tear up? Yesterday I had that experience when reading “Husband’s Heartwarming Response to Retouched Boudoir Photos of His Wife.” In her article, Barbara Diamond perfectly captures how our toxic girly thoughts have us doing to ourselves what society does to us: focusing on …
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Did you see the article in Saturday’s New York Times Fashion and Style section titled “I’m Not Mad. That’s Just My RBF”? In it, author Jessica Bennett writes, For those who need a review, RBF is a face that, when at ease, is perceived as angry, irritated or simply … expressionless. It’s the kind …
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Shocking? Yes. Toxic girly thoughts, those societally determined standards of right and wrong for women that have you trying to be the good girl in so many ways—including sexually—have had a powerful effect on you. When you consider this, you know you have been conditioned by the media and the greater society to feel comfortable …
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The more you engage and connect, the more engagement and connections you will have. ―Loren Weisman A common theme in psychotherapy sessions is connection. Women share that they want more connection, particularly with their intimate partners. But the way many women go about this is often self-defeating because they feel they need to fix some …
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Saturday night, I literally fell asleep tweeting. I woke up after six hours and began tweeting again. This is not me. Why did this happen? I was pumped. I was tweeting about Josh Duggar and his sisters. I tweeted my outrage and my concern for the increasing number of sexual abuse survivors who are screaming …
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I met Roseanna recently when I gave a talk at a university. She remembered that I asked women to share their girly thoughts, an obnoxious term I coined to describe that toxic, inner self-talk that plagues and disempowers women. Roseanna’s Contribution Roseanna send me a poem she wrote about her sister, …
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