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Sometimes we need a study to prove something we have known for a very long time—that we have been feeling bad about ourselves for as long as we can remember. Read it and Weep In an article originally published in Eating Disorders: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention and blogged about by …
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"depression", Addiction, anger in women, book clubs, dieting, feeling bad about yourself, girly thoughts, grief, hope in taking charge of your thinking, hormonal changes, impossible images of perfection, over eating, over-drinking, self-sabotage, speaking to girls in your family, too much wine, weight concern in childhood, working a second shift at home
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“This is who I am and look at me not being perfect! I’m proud of that.” —Kate Winslet Girly thoughts are the way you internalize society’s messages about how you should look and should feel. They affect you on many levels, from the way you speak and write about yourself on …
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body acceptance, Cassey Ho, changing your breasts, changing your eyes, changing your thighs, cyber-bullying, girly thoughts, kate winslet, self-acceptance, toxic self-talk, women empowerment, women's empowerment, working out
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I’m returning to the scene of the crime (the city I grew up in), New York City, to speak to fellow psychologists, and I’m inviting you to join me! Why? Because as women we all have girly thoughts, and together we can learn to identify them as well as strategize ways to eliminate them. I …
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bad hair day, being 'unfeminine', being a 'good girl', being nice, corporate speaking, embracing your inner business woman, girly thoughts, legacy of women being less than, naming a stressor, new york city, nys psychological association, nys psychological association division of women's issues, professional speaking, psychologists, publishing, social media, toxic self-talk
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“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” —Amy Bloom Beauty should be painful? Really? It is amazing how powerful our girly thoughts are . . .yes, those thoughts that tell us we have to live up to a certain societal standard if we want to be desirable, no matter …
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ab workout, beauty is pain, eating healthily, exercise, foot binding, French court, girly thoughts, needing to look beautiful, Nina Bahadur, pain killers, painful beauty, rib removal, stress eating, Victorian Era, waist training
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I am sitting in the living room of a friend who is playing the piano, looking out on the snowy April landscape. She is relaxed; her home is immaculate, which wouldn’t be a cause for surprise except for the fact that she is on day 55 without water. Yes, without water. In this mountainous …
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being frozen, girly thoughts, harsh winter, laundromat, living in mountains, livings without water, no water, oil companies, small towns, stopping self-sabotage, taking clean clothes for granted, toxic self-talk, washing your cloths, washing your hair, women musicians
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Sexual politics run deep in our responses, even in casual meetings. We act like “dutiful little girls” in our responses, and in an almost instinctive reaction, we do to ourselves what society has taught us to do. This reaction, which I’ve named girly thoughts, is one I fight against, and I’ve coined the term and …
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accepting a compliment, brief encounters, don't anesthetize painful feelings, dutiful little girls, fight your girly thoughts, giggling, girly thoughts, sexual politics, Strictly Business, taking away your power, women empowerment
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Many things probably turn you on, as they should. One thing that really turns me on is going to the Electric City. For those of you who do not know the lore of upstate New York, this city is also called Schenectady, and it’s the home of GE, aka General Electric. It is also …
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girly thoughts, new york, Patricia O'Gorman, schenectady
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I’m so excited . . . I’ve been invited to speak at the State University of New York (SUNY) at Potsdam on April 16. I’ll be addressing a group of students from 7:00 to 8:30 pm in the Fireside Lounge of the Barrington Student Union about hitting gender issues head on. I was invited …
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a higher minimum wage, book signings, college students, competing with other women, Fireside Lounge in the Barrington Student Union, gender equality, girly thoughts, good female reproductive health care, good little girl, misdirection, misdirection and women, powerful women, predictable, quality child care, SAGE, schenectady, small number of women elected officials, Student Activists for Gender Equality, SUNY Alumni, SUNY Potsdam, women elected officials, women empowerment, women equality
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Have you ever been on the front page of your local newspaper? I don’t mean as a cute baby in the Easter Parade, or for having committed some terrible crime, or for being awarded a prestigious prize, but as an adult, and just because you were happy? I was, and here’s the proof: …
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girly thoughts, Patricia O'Gorman, women, Women's Issues