Are You Worried You’re Dumb? Those Are Your Girly Thoughts Talking, and They’re WRONG

July 3rd, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Are You Worried You’re Dumb? Those Are Your Girly Thoughts Talking, and They’re WRONG)

Do you have this constant yammering in your head telling you that you can’t do something, that you’re so dumb you’ll screw this up? Does this toxic inner voice tell you you’re just not smart enough? I’ve named this energy-draining voice girly thoughts. Yes, it’s a miserable name for a terrible feeling we have been …
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Have Your Girly Thoughts Caused You to Loose Your Clit?

June 19th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Sexuality | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Have Your Girly Thoughts Caused You to Loose Your Clit?)

Shocking? Yes. Toxic girly thoughts, those societally determined standards of right and wrong for women that have you trying to be the good girl in so many ways—including sexually—have had a powerful effect on you. When you consider this, you know you have been conditioned by the media and the greater society to feel comfortable …
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Longing for Connection? Think Sex, Dogs, and Babies, Not Girly Thoughts

June 12th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Sexuality | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Longing for Connection? Think Sex, Dogs, and Babies, Not Girly Thoughts)

The more you engage and connect, the more engagement and connections you will have. ―Loren Weisman   A common theme in psychotherapy sessions is connection. Women share that they want more connection, particularly with their intimate partners. But the way many women go about this is often self-defeating because they feel they need to fix some …
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YOUR Girly Thoughts and #JoshDuggar

June 5th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on YOUR Girly Thoughts and #JoshDuggar)

Saturday night, I literally fell asleep tweeting. I woke up after six hours and began tweeting again. This is not me. Why did this happen? I was pumped. I was tweeting about Josh Duggar and his sisters. I tweeted my outrage and my concern for the increasing number of sexual abuse survivors who are screaming …
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Sixteen and Not Ready to Confront Girly Thoughts

May 22nd, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Adolescents | Adolescents' Issues | Body Image | Family Issues | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Sixteen and Not Ready to Confront Girly Thoughts)

I met Roseanna recently when I gave a talk at a university. She remembered that I asked women to share their girly thoughts, an obnoxious term I coined to describe that toxic, inner self-talk that plagues and disempowers women.     Roseanna’s Contribution     Roseanna send me a poem she wrote about her sister, …
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Yes…Girly Thoughts at Age 3

May 18th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Yes…Girly Thoughts at Age 3)

Sometimes we need a study to prove something we have known for a very long time—that we have been feeling bad about ourselves for as long as we can remember.     Read it and Weep   In an article originally published in Eating Disorders: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention and blogged about by …
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Go Rogue—No Girly Thoughts

May 15th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Go Rogue—No Girly Thoughts)

“This is who I am and look at me not being perfect! I’m proud of that.” —Kate Winslet         Girly thoughts are the way you internalize society’s messages about how you should look and should feel. They affect you on many levels, from the way you speak and write about yourself on …
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Embracing Your Inner Business Woman and Chucking Your Girly Thoughts!

May 12th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues | Workplace Issues - (Comments Off on Embracing Your Inner Business Woman and Chucking Your Girly Thoughts!)

I’m returning to the scene of the crime (the city I grew up in), New York City, to speak to fellow psychologists, and I’m inviting you to join me! Why? Because as women we all have girly thoughts, and together we can learn to identify them as well as strategize ways to eliminate them. I …
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How I Overcame My Anxiety

May 11th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Mental Illness - (Comments Off on How I Overcame My Anxiety)

“If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.” —Ellen Johnson Sirleaf       I was walking my dog this morning when a neighbor asked me where I’ve been. “I didn’t see you last week,” she offered. “I was in Nebraska,” I proudly shared, “in the land of strong prairie women, …
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