Girly Thought #1: “I’m Fat.” A Sure Way NOT to Lose Weight in the New Year

February 5th, 2016 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Girly Thought #1: “I’m Fat.” A Sure Way NOT to Lose Weight in the New Year)

Awareness, not deprivation, informs what you eat.” —Geneen Roth   Yes, over the holidays you ate more than you wished you had, and now you feel . . . fat.   Girly Thought #1: I’m Fat   Become aware that the multi-billion dollar diet industry has ramped up, telling you that you need to lose …
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Five Toxic Girly Thoughts Guaranteed to Increase Your Holiday Stress

December 18th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Family Issues | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Five Toxic Girly Thoughts Guaranteed to Increase Your Holiday Stress)

It’s the happy holiday season, and you’re already feeling the pressure. If you’re like most of us, you’re already hearing that inner voice that pushes you to do more, reminding you that it is up to you to make this a holiday season to remember while telling you that no matter what you’re doing, it …
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Overcoming Toxic Girly Thoughts With Powerlifting

December 11th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Overcoming Toxic Girly Thoughts With Powerlifting)

Have you ever met someone and thought, “Wow, here’s someone without girly thoughts!”? That’s not unusual for me. When I meet a woman for the first time, I quickly assess to see if she is measures herself against societal standards and the self-defeating thoughts I’ve named “girly thoughts.” I always silently applaud when I encounter someone who doesn’t. Alese is one such …
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Say NO to Toxic Girly Thoughts About Your Health—One Conversation at a Time

November 20th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Sexuality | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Say NO to Toxic Girly Thoughts About Your Health—One Conversation at a Time)

The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off. —Gloria Steinman                   Are you aware that most drug studies are conducted on men? This has been true for testing even “routine” medications that are taken by both women and men. The reason always given …
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New: Heal Your Own Trauma Through Self-Parenting via Audiobook

July 10th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Men's Issues | Trauma | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on New: Heal Your Own Trauma Through Self-Parenting via Audiobook)

My toxic girly thoughts told me I should just put this information on my website and not make a big deal about it. After all, isn’t this boasting? Then my resilience kicked in and said, “You worked hard to write this book—so shout about it!”   What’s All the Fuss About?   My most recent …
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Are You Worried You’re Dumb? Those Are Your Girly Thoughts Talking, and They’re WRONG

July 3rd, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Are You Worried You’re Dumb? Those Are Your Girly Thoughts Talking, and They’re WRONG)

Do you have this constant yammering in your head telling you that you can’t do something, that you’re so dumb you’ll screw this up? Does this toxic inner voice tell you you’re just not smart enough? I’ve named this energy-draining voice girly thoughts. Yes, it’s a miserable name for a terrible feeling we have been …
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Have Your Girly Thoughts Caused You to Loose Your Clit?

June 19th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Relationships | Sexuality | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Have Your Girly Thoughts Caused You to Loose Your Clit?)

Shocking? Yes. Toxic girly thoughts, those societally determined standards of right and wrong for women that have you trying to be the good girl in so many ways—including sexually—have had a powerful effect on you. When you consider this, you know you have been conditioned by the media and the greater society to feel comfortable …
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Longing for Connection? Think Sex, Dogs, and Babies, Not Girly Thoughts

June 12th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Sexuality | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on Longing for Connection? Think Sex, Dogs, and Babies, Not Girly Thoughts)

The more you engage and connect, the more engagement and connections you will have. ―Loren Weisman   A common theme in psychotherapy sessions is connection. Women share that they want more connection, particularly with their intimate partners. But the way many women go about this is often self-defeating because they feel they need to fix some …
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YOUR Girly Thoughts and #JoshDuggar

June 5th, 2015 | Posted by Patricia O'Gorman, PhD in Body Image | Girly Thoughts | Health & Wellness | Women's Issues - (Comments Off on YOUR Girly Thoughts and #JoshDuggar)

Saturday night, I literally fell asleep tweeting. I woke up after six hours and began tweeting again. This is not me. Why did this happen? I was pumped. I was tweeting about Josh Duggar and his sisters. I tweeted my outrage and my concern for the increasing number of sexual abuse survivors who are screaming …
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