For most recovering sex addicts who are not already in a long-term relationship, healthy dating and sexuality is an important goal of recovery. However, because they’ve spent so much of their lives chasing sexual intensity rather than any sort of true intimate connection, they often approach this task with trepidation. Generally speaking, their three primary …
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Should Recovering Sex Addicts Tell Dates About Their Addiction?
January 12th, 2016 | Posted by in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Should Recovering Sex Addicts Tell Dates About Their Addiction?)For The New Year…Want to Be a Millionaire? Stop Your Toxic Girly Thoughts
January 8th, 2016 | Posted by in Addiction & Recovery | Girly Thoughts | Workplace Issues - (Comments Off on For The New Year…Want to Be a Millionaire? Stop Your Toxic Girly Thoughts)Austin Geidt credits her road to sobriety with her success in developing Uber. But that’s not the whole story. Let’s understand what she is saying in terms of how this journey also helped her re-define herself as a woman. Her road to recovery had her going back to basics, dropping out of college, and getting …
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Sex Addiction: The Role of Denial
December 14th, 2015 | Posted by in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Sex Addiction: The Role of Denial)Active sex and porn addicts rarely view their escapist sexual fantasies and behaviors as a root cause of their unhappiness and life challenges. Even when they are neck deep in negative consequences, sex addicts somehow don’t let themselves think about their sexual acting out as a contributing factor to their misery. In fact, they typically …
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Guest Blog from Dr. Stefanie Carnes
December 10th, 2015 | Posted by in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Guest Blog from Dr. Stefanie Carnes)Guest Blog from Dr. Stefanie Carnes Over the years I have developed a tremendous amount of respect for Dr. Stefanie Carnes and her work as both a clinician and a trainer of clinicians. Currently, she serves as President of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals and as a National Clinical Consultant for Elements …
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Joy of Joys, Relapse Season is Here!
December 2nd, 2015 | Posted by in Addiction & Recovery - (Comments Off on Joy of Joys, Relapse Season is Here!)Here we are again, staring down that That Most Wonderful Time of the Year! Of course, from the perspective of an addict and trauma survivor like me, the holiday season can sometimes seem, shall we say, difficult at best. Perhaps my negative view of the Halloween through New Year’s holidays is merely a reflection of …
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Combatting Sex Addiction Triggers: Five Tools for Sobriety
November 16th, 2015 | Posted by in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Combatting Sex Addiction Triggers: Five Tools for Sobriety)If you are a recovering alcoholic or drug addict with solid support and a lot of motivated willingness to get well, you can make it through the rest of your life without taking another drink or abusing an addictive drug. Similarly, compulsive gamblers can live a full and happy lives without ever re-entering a casino, …
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Ten Things to Do When a Friend or Loved One Relapses
October 29th, 2015 | Posted by in Addiction & Recovery - (Comments Off on Ten Things to Do When a Friend or Loved One Relapses)Yesterday a good friend in a nearby city, Edward, sober from alcohol and drugs for well over a decade, received a flurry of text messages about an acquaintance of his, a recovering addict in her early 40s, who’d just gone into the hospital. At first the cause of this hospitalization was somewhat unclear, but as …
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Relapse Prevention, Part 1: Identifying Addiction Triggers
October 6th, 2015 | Posted by in Addiction & Recovery - (Comments Off on Relapse Prevention, Part 1: Identifying Addiction Triggers)Jonathan is a 45-year-old structural engineer. He has been in recovery for both sex addiction and meth/cocaine addiction for just under a year, initially seeking help after his wife learned about his multiple affairs, trips to strip clubs, drug abuse, and sex with prostitutes. Jonathan is serious about his recovery and saving his marriage. Unfortunately, …
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Sexual Addiction: Tolerance and Escalation
September 15th, 2015 | Posted by in Sex Addiction - (Comments Off on Sexual Addiction: Tolerance and Escalation)Tolerance: Tolerance occurs when the body needs increasingly larger or more potent doses to get the same effect from an addictive substance or a behavior. Escalation: Escalation occurs when a person indulges his or her tolerance to an addictive substance or behavior with larger or more potent doses.